The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt

The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate ➞ [Epub] ❥ The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate By Gary Chapman ➨ – Thomashillier.co.uk Couples who understand each other s love language hold a priceless advantage in the quest for love that lasts a lifetime they know how to effectively and consistently make each other feel truly and de Couples who understand each Love Languages: ePUB ´ other s love language hold a priceless The Five PDF/EPUB ² advantage in the quest for love that lasts a lifetime they know Five Love Languages: MOBI î how to effectively and consistently make each other feel truly and deeply loved That gift never fades away.


10 thoughts on “The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

  1. Msmeemee Msmeemee says:

    this book is a tool through which the author, gary chapman, can play out his jesus complex disguised as a relationship self help book there are references from the bible throughout almost every chapter and gary likes to include generous praise from his clients who call him a miracle worker it s damn near pretty close to being called god.the book has all the hallmarks of a bestseller easy to read i read it in one day hopeless circumstances that seem beyond repair and an uplifiting ending this book is a tool through which the author, gary chapman, can play out his jesus complex disguised as a relationship self help book there are references from the bible throughout almost every chapter and gary likes to include generous praise from his clients who call him a miracle worker it s damn near pretty close to being called god.the book has all the hallmarks of a bestseller easy to read i read it in one day hopeless circumstances that seem beyond repair and an uplifiting ending thebestsellers i read, thei realize that the formula for mainstream media isn t just used in music and movies, it s used in books, too ugh, how annoying i admit, i was almost sold on it, too the author used just the right amount of despair and at the appropriate moments, instilled hope for a better future and while hope isn t bad at all, the book lacks in addressing the complexity of relationships as well as the diversity of relationships in today s world for example, this book may not translate well in multicultural relationships that are dictated by a whole different set of s and values also, i wonder how it would be relevant to queer couples or polyamourous relationships it s quite apparent that this book is meant for hetero white christian monogamous couples.but the one major caveat of this book that isn t so much a caveat as a poorly disguised advocate of misogyny, is the case of a woman who has been abused what type of abuse has been perpetrated isn t made explicit and gary s reluctance to do so makes me suspicious of how the church deals with issues of domestic violence gary s advice dismiss any of your own feelings of discomfort being used for sex and have sex with your husband as an act of love and hope that he will reciprocate that love and what i don t understand is how people have overlooked this, even people who are in the psychology field that s one thing he doesn t really address, how to identify your limits and make compromises if you can t see the problem with this picture, i pray you never get married or have a relationship or speak to people.the gender roles in this book are fucking archaic there s this little section where gary talks about the gender differences in sexual desire according to him, these differences are all physiologically based men simply havetension built up as a result of massive sperm generation whereas women don t, and that is why women don t crave sex the way men do instead, women only want sex if their men meet their emotional needs what, do men not need to have their emotional needs met are they really just fucking animals who want to empty their over spermed dicks why don t they just jack off into a toilet for crying out loud oops, am i not supposed to mention masturbation in the presence of god and gary makes women seem like fucking prudes from the latest harlequin romance, the christian edition gag this man has very little knowledge of couples outside the realm of christian folklore.his section on physical touch made me laugh i wasn t sure if the lame attempts at humor were to assuage his own discomfort or that of his audience yes, gary, people have sex i understand that when you tell me to rub my partner s leg with my foot that i should make sure i m not rubbing the dog harhar.to be fair, he touched on the basic fundamentals of communication with your partner, but i can hardly call this book revolutionary his book on the five languages of love for children sounduseful just because the developmental stage they are in matches the dumbed down tone of the book you d think he was writing for couples who were born in a vaccuum.i m so over reading new york times bestsellers we ve been brainwashed into accepting that the typical mainstream formula is quality literature i prefer real talk to fluffy shit, thank you


  2. Brittany Brittany says:

    I think the basis for this self help book is good I totally get the love languages thing My husband s love language is Physical Affection and mine is Quality Time I totally see that But this is like a Love Language For Dummies It talks to you like you re an idiot who has never had basic human social interaction before And there isn t really any advice, just this guy rambling on about how smart he is for figuring out that people need to be loved in different ways Like, his advice for I think the basis for this self help book is good I totally get the love languages thing My husband s love language is Physical Affection and mine is Quality Time I totally see that But this is like a Love Language For Dummies It talks to you like you re an idiot who has never had basic human social interaction before And there isn t really any advice, just this guy rambling on about how smart he is for figuring out that people need to be loved in different ways Like, his advice for someone whose spouse not partner, not lifemate, and in this instance, always the wife prefers Acts of Service as a love language because wives love when their husband does the laundry for them, basically is just that do the laundry without being asked Well no shit That s not real advice, that s common sense And if the husband were to argue I don t have time, I work a lot so that I can provide for my family blah blah blah, he just says WELL MAKE TIME Super helpful, guy.Not to mention the book is sexist and heteronormative Unfortunately, I did a little googling on the author AFTER the fact, and of course it is, because he s a Bible beater I wish I had known that before I wasted my 7 on the Kindle book I d really like to see this concept updated and brought into the 21st century, written in such a manner as to A actually include all walks of life, not just middle class straight white married couples, and B actually offer advice that can be applied to a relationship


  3. Catherine Catherine says:

    This book was recommended to my friend by her pastor to read before she got married My assumption was that it would be religious in tone and not very relevant to today s relationships I m so glad I was wrong This is one of those books I would suggest everyone read It is such a simple explanation of what can so often go wrong in relationships It s not about men vs women, it s about the way people receive love.The basis is there are 5 Love Languages obviously And if you speak a different This book was recommended to my friend by her pastor to read before she got married My assumption was that it would be religious in tone and not very relevant to today s relationships I m so glad I was wrong This is one of those books I would suggest everyone read It is such a simple explanation of what can so often go wrong in relationships It s not about men vs women, it s about the way people receive love.The basis is there are 5 Love Languages obviously And if you speak a different love language than your partner, then you may not feel loved The 5 Love Languages are Words of AffirmationQuality TimeReceiving GiftsActs of ServicePhysical TouchI m sure everyone responds to all of these in some way, but we all have a primary language There is a great quiz in the back that can help youquickly define yours By reading the book, I knew what mine was, but the survey pinpointed it to a T and helped me rank mine by importance, even better than I think I could have done on my own This book will help you in your current relationships of all kinds, not just romantic and any future relationships you ll have It really pinpoints how relationships can fall apart after the honeymoon period is over, even if you still love each other It helps you understand how to show your love for someone else in a way that they ll best receive it I could give a bunch of examples from the book, but I want you to read it So go get it from the library TODAY Then share with me what your primary language is I d love to know everyone s Mine is Words of Affirmation Almost never do two people fall in love on the same day, and almost never do they fall out of love on the same day Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself


  4. Malbadeen Malbadeen says:

    This book is based on the premise that everyone has a love language Things others say or do that make one feel loved ,they are follows words of affirmation recieving gifts acts of service physical touch quality time.Personally I want you to tell me how great I am words of affirmation while walking in the house with a collection of poetry for me receiving gifts , make a beeline for the trash that needs to be taken out acts of service , then come back in and read quietly next to me q This book is based on the premise that everyone has a love language Things others say or do that make one feel loved ,they are follows words of affirmation recieving gifts acts of service physical touch quality time.Personally I want you to tell me how great I am words of affirmation while walking in the house with a collection of poetry for me receiving gifts , make a beeline for the trash that needs to be taken out acts of service , then come back in and read quietly next to me quality time before I ride you like the wild stallion that you are physical touch so where does that leave me Which love language am I This book was not helpful as indicated by the shelf it s on


  5. Hildie Hildie says:

    My mother in law gave me this book and I hesitated reading it because it sounds so cheesy and just take a look at the cover how dorky But I was stuck on vacation with nothing else to read so I reluctantly gave it a try In a nutshell, this book has changed my life Page after page I found myself wanting to yell, yes Thats exactly right If I could give thisthan five stars, I would Okay, maybe changed my life is a bit strong, but it has certainly enhanced my marriage like nothing My mother in law gave me this book and I hesitated reading it because it sounds so cheesy and just take a look at the cover how dorky But I was stuck on vacation with nothing else to read so I reluctantly gave it a try In a nutshell, this book has changed my life Page after page I found myself wanting to yell, yes Thats exactly right If I could give thisthan five stars, I would Okay, maybe changed my life is a bit strong, but it has certainly enhanced my marriage like nothing else I ve ever read or done.The advice this author gives is so profound and universal, it can be applied successfully to any deep relationship you have children, parents, close friends I just can t recommend it highly enough Every couple, whether newly together or old marrieds, could benefit from this book


  6. Jeff Jeff says:

    This was recommended by a friend of my wife, which proves part of the old adage A friend of thy wife, is thine enemy That s from the Bible or the Decameron or Archie Comics I think.I ll do the whole would it kill you to read something positive with me for a change thing if I want something in return in order spend some time with my wife Plus, bonus, the audio book was relatively short.I ve had to read a few scoops of self help crap literature over the years, so I m down with the lingo This was recommended by a friend of my wife, which proves part of the old adage A friend of thy wife, is thine enemy That s from the Bible or the Decameron or Archie Comics I think.I ll do the whole would it kill you to read something positive with me for a change thing if I want something in return in order spend some time with my wife Plus, bonus, the audio book was relatively short.I ve had to read a few scoops of self help crap literature over the years, so I m down with the lingo Annie Wilkes s How to Win Friends and Influence People I m OK Neurotic, OCD, manic depressive , You re OK Nymphomaniac, Daddy issues, Passive aggressive.Untying my inner child from the radiator and letting him have ice cream with my toxic parents.Books that give you a thought for the day , you know, something cosmic and revelatory to think about and chew on for eternity or until you close the book Jeff, buddy, I m breathless with anticipation What are the five languages of love, already Well, as a way to work into that, fanatical and borderline crazy Goodreader, let me explain the good doctor s theory on the FIVE languages of love Basically, we all speak a primary language and we all have a language of love that we learned from mommy and daddy.One of five languages of love.Five Count em, Five What was that number again So, that number is five, right Stop dragging this out in order to post five gifs.According to Dr Chapman, the five languages are Now, I m done.1 Giving gifts If the last time you gave your wife flowers was when Nirvana was a thing, then this one isn t you.2 Words of affirmation These don t include You re an idiot moron devil shrew succubus etc 3 Acts of Service or doing stuff for your loved one or something Helping my wife bury the hoochies that chase after our son qualifies here.4 Quality time It s not me, me, me Maybe your wife, wants to hang with you and do stuff, like, I don t know, talk 5 Physical touch It s not only smexy times, but just being there, being present.Note to wife Please treat every day like my birthday So, in a nutshell, recognize your love language and your spouse s love language and try to accommodate them in some small way.If I ve saved your marriage, you re welcome or just send me a check Make it out to CASH.Warning The doctor likes to work in the Christian stuff and this is strictly a hetero tome, so if the first is a turn off and you find the second limited, look for help elsewhere And like anything in this world that makes money, Chapman has written enough additional books on this subject to choke a Tijuana stage show donkey


  7. KatieMc KatieMc says:

    I won t go into the circumstances which lead to this bizarre buddy read that took place at Disneyland Sometimes life can be stranger than fiction I will say that this book has some reasonably helpful thoughts and ideas, but it is way too simplified and way too heteronormative and way too traditional Christian value based to speak to me in any meaningful way Every single example featured a husband breadwinner and wife homemaker who sometimes worked outside the home couple In one example, I won t go into the circumstances which lead to this bizarre buddy read that took place at Disneyland Sometimes life can be stranger than fiction I will say that this book has some reasonably helpful thoughts and ideas, but it is way too simplified and way too heteronormative and way too traditional Christian value based to speak to me in any meaningful way Every single example featured a husband breadwinner and wife homemaker who sometimes worked outside the home couple In one example, when the wife was asked to describe something positive about her husband, she says he let s me keep any money I earn in my part time job Another example included a young wife who wished her husband would change the baby s diaper when he got home from work because she was busy cooking dinner HIM I would like her to cook dinner for when I get home from work WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE The author didn t overtly advocate for traditional gender roles in the home, but I couldn t help but think there was a subliminal message indicating his preference for this In the one example where the husband seemed to take on a fair share of the cooking, cleaning and other assorted domestic chores, the wife complained She wanted him to spendtime with her As it turned out, the wife really wanted to cook and clean, but the husband was too efficient and didn t give her a chance to do so Oh, happy ending Needless to say, I m crying feminist tears at this point.Don t get me wrong, I am all for good communication, respect and understanding how to make your spouse feel loved But when this misogynist flavored relationship guru doled out advice to a woman in a horrible marriage, I took issue The details of horror of the marriage were largely unsaid, other than it was given that the husband cursed and said he hated his wife This woman was very religious and clearly the idea of leaving her husband was at odds with her beliefs Since the husband had no interest in seeking marriage counseling, the author marriage counselor devised a unilateral plan he admitted didn t know would work The crux of the plan was for the wife to speak to her husband in his love language, and hopefully he would eventually he would reciprocate and the love tanks would start to refill This plan basically suggested, among other things, that the wife initiate sex with her husband as his love language was physical touch even though this idea did not appeal to the wife Kind of a take one for the team approach The author clearly said that this was her decision to do so Ok, so all this has the appearance of consenting adults and informed decisions, so where s the problem Katie Oh, I don t know, how about emotional manipulation of the vulnerable Call me cynical, but I picture an abused spouse view spoiler emotional or physical, it makes no difference to me hide spoiler reading this and thinking that I just need to have sex with my husband and maybe things will work out And that leads me to the other big issue I had with this book All the case studies were simple and tidy and all had happily ever afters Not very realistic This author only cited success stories and provided no useful examples of how this love language thing can go wrong Overall, I think the idea of love languages seems reasonable, but I was sorely disappointed in the examples and approaches suggested by the author At best, he gave an overly optimistic view of how implementing his ideas would work and if they don t work the first time, perhaps you could try one of his marriage eminars or buyof his book At worst, they pander to the emotionally vulnerable in abusive relationships, giving them specious relationship advice


  8. Al Al says:

    blahblahblahblahDoing what your spouse asks of you makes them love youThere I just saved you 14.


  9. Shannon (leaninglights) Shannon (leaninglights) says:

    4.5 starsI absolutely recommend this book to EVERYONE Whether you are married, dating, single, whatever The ideas and concepts in this book will benefit any relationship The idea of loving others the way they need to be loved might feel counterintuitive, but it something so essential to growing as a person and understanding what love really is.I had always known about this book and the love languages, but this was the first time I actually read it Of course, as with any self help type of boo 4.5 starsI absolutely recommend this book to EVERYONE Whether you are married, dating, single, whatever The ideas and concepts in this book will benefit any relationship The idea of loving others the way they need to be loved might feel counterintuitive, but it something so essential to growing as a person and understanding what love really is.I had always known about this book and the love languages, but this was the first time I actually read it Of course, as with any self help type of book, there were a few cheesy moments, which is why I docked it half a star, but overall it was a fantastic read


  10. Sheri Sheri says:

    A quick and valuable read to help you better understand how you and your partner best like to express and receive love Great for helping you see what you truly value in a partner and what your partner truly values in you.


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