Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive


Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence ❮PDF / Epub❯ ✈ Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence ⚣ Author Rosalind Wiseman – Thomashillier.co.uk When Rosalind Wiseman first published Queen Bees Wannabes, she fundamentally changed the way adults look at girls friendships and conflicts from how they choose their best friends, how they express th When Rosalind Wiseman first and Wannabes: PDF/EPUB Á published Queen Bees Wannabes, she fundamentally changed the way adults look at girls Queen Bees PDF or friendships and conflicts from how they choose their best friends, how they express their anger, their boundaries with Bees and Wannabes: PDF/EPUB ¾ boys, and their relationships with parents Wiseman showed how girls of every background are profoundly influenced by their interactions with one another Now, Wiseman has revised and updated her groundbreaking book for a new generation of girls and explores How girls experiences before adolescence impact their teen years, future relationships, and overall success The different roles girls play in and outside of cliques as Queen Bees, Targets, and Bystanders, and how this defines how they and others are treated Girls power plays from fake apologies to fights over IM and text messages Where boys fit into the equation of girl conflicts and how you can help your daughter better hold her own with the opposite sex Checking your baggage recognizing how your experiences impact the way you parent, and how to be sanely involved in your daughter s difficult, yet common social conflictsPacked with insights about technology s impact on Girl World and enlivened with the experiences of girls, boys, and parents, the book that inspired the hit movie Mean Girls offers concrete strategies to help you empower your daughter to be socially competent and treat herself with dignity.

    Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive interactions with one another Now, Wiseman has revised and updated her groundbreaking book for a new generation of girls and explores How girls experiences before adolescence impact their teen years, future relationships, and overall success The different roles girls play in and outside of cliques as Queen Bees, Targets, and Bystanders, and how this defines how they and others are treated Girls power plays from fake apologies to fights over IM and text messages Where boys fit into the equation of girl conflicts and how you can help your daughter better hold her own with the opposite sex Checking your baggage recognizing how your experiences impact the way you parent, and how to be sanely involved in your daughter s difficult, yet common social conflictsPacked with insights about technology s impact on Girl World and enlivened with the experiences of girls, boys, and parents, the book that inspired the hit movie Mean Girls offers concrete strategies to help you empower your daughter to be socially competent and treat herself with dignity."/>
  • Paperback
  • 336 pages
  • Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence
  • Rosalind Wiseman
  • English
  • 18 July 2017
  • 1400047927

About the Author: Rosalind Wiseman

Rosalind Wiseman is an and Wannabes: PDF/EPUB Á internationally recognized expert on children, teens, parenting, bullying, social justice, and ethical leadershipWiseman Queen Bees PDF or is the author of Queen Bees and Wannabes Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities Bees and Wannabes: PDF/EPUB ¾ of Adolescence Twice a New York Times Bestseller, Queen Bees Wannabes was the basis for the movie Mean Girls Her follow up book Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads was released in , and she is a monthly columnist for Family Circle magazineSince founding the Empower Program, a national violence prevention program, in , Wiseman has gone on to work with tens of thousands of students, educators, parents, counselors, coaches, and administrators to create communities based on the belief that each person has a responsibility to treat themselves and others with dignity Audiences have included the American School Counselors Association, Capital One, National Education Association, Girl Scouts, Neutrogena, Young Presidents Association, Independent School Associations and the International Chiefs of Police, as well as countless schools throughout the US and abroadShe is a frequent guest on the Today Show and been profiled in The New York Times, People, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, Washington Post, USA Today, Oprah, Nightline, CNN, Good Morning America, and National Public Radio affiliates throughout the countryIn , Rosalind Wiseman has three publications scheduled for release Her groundbreaking book Queen Bees Wannabes will be updated with a chapter on younger girls, insights on how technology has impacted kids social landscapes, and new commentary from girls and boys The Owning Up Curriculum, a comprehensive social justice program for grades , will reflect an ever changing adolescent culture, and incorporate new strategies for using media to engage students And a new young adult novel will mark Wiseman s first foray into fiction The book follows its year old heroine, Charlotte Healey, as she navigates the personal and social challenges of her freshman year of high schoolWiseman has a Bachelor of Arts in Political Science from Occidental College She lives in Washington DC with her husband and two sons.



10 thoughts on “Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence

  1. Kelly (and the Book Boar) Kelly (and the Book Boar) says:

    Find all of my reviews at the dreaded video you were forced to watch in 5th grade, right before you started pubin out and became horrible Schools should eliminate that and add a mandatory class on how to survive Girl World to the curriculum instead Queen Bees and Wannabes is the first parenting book I ve ever read I never bothered with all the Dr Spock nonsense I mean really, who would trust a VULCAN to give the right advice about parentin Find all of my reviews at the dreaded video you were forced to watch in 5th grade, right before you started pubin out and became horrible Schools should eliminate that and add a mandatory class on how to survive Girl World to the curriculum instead Queen Bees and Wannabes is the first parenting book I ve ever read I never bothered with all the Dr Spock nonsense I mean really, who would trust a VULCAN to give the right advice about parenting They don t even have emotions for God s sake As a mother of boys, this obviously wasn t a book geared toward me I do, however, often get asked if I m sad I didn t havekids Well, to be blunt the answer has always been if I didn t have to navigate them through Junior High and High School thenmaybe This book confirmed those feelingsFrom the basics of mean girl behavior like gossip and slut shaming tocomplex issues like drugs, alcohol, and sex Queen Bees covers nearly everything And while most of the advice seems to stem from basic common sense, if there s one thing I ve come to realize about Muricans is there s a good chunk of them that have none of it Those people should flock to the bookstore stat in order to purchase this book.Personally, I love the common sense approach to parenting No offense to all the religious zealots out there, but I m not one of you so if I wanted a godly parenting book I would go to the Christian Book Store and pick one up or I would just ask Tom Cruise.I was lucky, I guess I never experienced much of the mean girl world as a kid I was actively bullied one time In Junior High School I was approached before school by a girl I knew from Adam who informed me she would be kicking my ass after school Well, she didn t, but she continued to inform me daily that she was still planning on it My own private Dread Pirate Roberts Good news to any youngsters reading this if your bully is anything like mine she ll get what s coming to herHa Not really, but there s a good chance she ll end up an unemployed loser with a bunch of kids in 20 years The basic goal is to be aware of what position your daughter is playing in her social hierarchy in order to help her navigate adolescence effectively If you are unfortunate enough to be raising a Queen Bee, how to attempt to turn her into one who uses her powers for good rather than evilOr if your poor kid happens to be the bullied rather than the bully, to hopefully get her to a point where she can sayBottom line, parents need to actively work on helping to create less of this type of girlandof this type of girlOh, and stop trying to be your child s BFF It is your job to keep them from being assholes and if you find out they ARE being assholes, it is your job to actually follow the advice in this book and make them own up to it and apologize I ll gladly take the I hate yous or being told I m the worst there s a tiara with that written on it just for me if it means my kid didn t ruin someone else s life

  2. Elisa Elisa says:

    I have read this book 4 times now It is a must read for anyone who has to deal with women It s not just about how to deal with mean girls as in teenagers, its also about mean little girls and mean women The author stated that every woman, at one point or another, will play every roll in the book I totally agree It is not a book that you can just sit down and read You have to read, digest Read, digest However, if you stick to it, you will have gained knowledge on how to not only help yo I have read this book 4 times now It is a must read for anyone who has to deal with women It s not just about how to deal with mean girls as in teenagers, its also about mean little girls and mean women The author stated that every woman, at one point or another, will play every roll in the book I totally agree It is not a book that you can just sit down and read You have to read, digest Read, digest However, if you stick to it, you will have gained knowledge on how to not only help your daughters, sisters, and friends, but also yourself I think people who say I ll read this when my daughter starts experiencing this type of behavior is not only selling themselves short, but the women in their lives as well It s better to learn the skills early on and be preemptive

  3. Bonnie Bonnie says:

    This is a book I read after seeing the movie Mean Girls, which is a fictionalization of this actual book, although it is a nonfiction book, not a novel I soooo wish this book had been around when I was in school It was a revelation to me and explained the grand majority of social interactions that happened to me back then The language is easy to read and precise without being technical or psychoanalytic Good suggestions for getting out of bad situations bullying, gossiping, drinking parti This is a book I read after seeing the movie Mean Girls, which is a fictionalization of this actual book, although it is a nonfiction book, not a novel I soooo wish this book had been around when I was in school It was a revelation to me and explained the grand majority of social interactions that happened to me back then The language is easy to read and precise without being technical or psychoanalytic Good suggestions for getting out of bad situations bullying, gossiping, drinking parties, and so on That sums up the book I plan to read it with my girls when they get a bit older The movie is NOT true to the book in any way, shape, or form Unfortunately, the movie glamourizes the very behaviors the book teaches you to avoid At the end of the movie, a teenager will remember only that Jell O shots and conveniently out of town parents are a necessity for any teen party So, if you want to start a meaningful dialogue with your daughter, skip the movie and read the book together, instead

  4. Deborah Deborah says:

    I obviously am not the parent of an adolescent girl, but one of my colleagues recommended this book to me since we are starting to see some clique ishness in the older girls at the school where I serve The book has a very particular audience parents , and sometimes the author s preachy tone and manner of simplistically classifying types of girls or situations rubs me the wrong way I also tend to think that much of this is common sense However, I suppose for some parents, this would be a de I obviously am not the parent of an adolescent girl, but one of my colleagues recommended this book to me since we are starting to see some clique ishness in the older girls at the school where I serve The book has a very particular audience parents , and sometimes the author s preachy tone and manner of simplistically classifying types of girls or situations rubs me the wrong way I also tend to think that much of this is common sense However, I suppose for some parents, this would be a decent road map of how to navigate parent daughter interactions during the child s adolescence And for anyone wishing to reminisce about the horrors of middle school mean girls, this will definitely bring up some bad memories

  5. Jackie Jackie says:

    Honestly, watch Mean Girls This book was the inspiration for the film and I think Tina Fey hit the nail on the head with the Queen Bee dynamic Unfortunately, this book fails to address other groups besides middle upper class white straight girls There is little to no mention of any other racial demographic I was disheartened that the author chose to relegate the topic of sexual orientation to a mere small chapter, sandwiched between heterosexual dating and sex Overall, it s quite obvious s Honestly, watch Mean Girls This book was the inspiration for the film and I think Tina Fey hit the nail on the head with the Queen Bee dynamic Unfortunately, this book fails to address other groups besides middle upper class white straight girls There is little to no mention of any other racial demographic I was disheartened that the author chose to relegate the topic of sexual orientation to a mere small chapter, sandwiched between heterosexual dating and sex Overall, it s quite obvious soccer moms in suburbia who is viewed as the target audience

  6. J J says:

    Wow I hated this book I m pregnant with my first child a daughter and overdosing on parenting books I saw this book in the library and thought it looked interesting This book was hard to read because it paints such a dramatic painful view of female adolescence It just isn t realistic I was a teen not that long ago I was part of a clique and we were immature, but we never went to the lengths described as normal in this book My childhood was actually really pleasant It never occurr Wow I hated this book I m pregnant with my first child a daughter and overdosing on parenting books I saw this book in the library and thought it looked interesting This book was hard to read because it paints such a dramatic painful view of female adolescence It just isn t realistic I was a teen not that long ago I was part of a clique and we were immature, but we never went to the lengths described as normal in this book My childhood was actually really pleasant It never occurred to me to drink, use drugs or have sex I obeyed my parents I focused on school I went on a few dates later in high school, but never became obsessed with it I had my first serious boyfriend in college and married my second boyfriend at 25 We honored our morals and waited until marriage to act like married people All my friends had christian values and when someone fell short and behaved badly, they d eventually seek forgiveness The world described by the author just isn t one I have ever experienced.Sex, drugs, drinking and disrespect for authorities is portrayed as normal Those who disagree are dismissed as in denial or naive The parents reading this book must have been truly messed up themselves to think this behavior is normal or acceptable Maybe they are too busy trying to be their daughter s friend or building her self esteem to actually parent The book also completely disregards and pointedly does not acknowledge the role of God or morals Umm, maybe all these problems exist because you are refusing to acknowledge God morals There is a section where the author says there is no excuse for not providing sex education to your daughter She mocks those who believe in abstinence There are also several sections on homosexuality and accepting this lifestyle The author describes girls as nasty and this just has never been my experience

  7. Peacegal Peacegal says:

    Queen Bees isdirected toward the parents of teenagers than Reviving Ophelia, but don t let that scare you off if you are a bullied student or interested in combating bullying from a sociological perspective Queen Bees was a helpful resource for me, who was bullied by mostly female peers from early adolescence into early adulthood with varying degrees of visciousness I occasionally return to materials on bullying to help me understand what happened to me and how it still shapes my personal Queen Bees isdirected toward the parents of teenagers than Reviving Ophelia, but don t let that scare you off if you are a bullied student or interested in combating bullying from a sociological perspective Queen Bees was a helpful resource for me, who was bullied by mostly female peers from early adolescence into early adulthood with varying degrees of visciousness I occasionally return to materials on bullying to help me understand what happened to me and how it still shapes my personality to this day, and to help me be a better resource for patrons who may ask me about classroom cruelty.Wiseman helpfully categorizes the various players in cliques as Queen Bees, Sidekicks, Bankers, Floaters, Torn Bystanders, Pleasers Wannabes Messengers, and Targets Humorously, I also categorized the cliquey girls in my high school lunchroom as Class A s Queen Bees , Class B s Sidekicks , and Class C s Wannabes Floaters I fit into none of these, because, well, I was a textbook Target.Wiseman writes of the TargetShe feels helpless to stop the girls behavior She feels she has no allies No one will back her up She feels isolated She can mask her hurt by rejecting people first, saying she doesn t like anyone.She feels ashamed of being rejected by the other girls because of who she is She ll be tempted to change herself in order to fit in She feels vulnerable and unable to affect the outcome of her situation She could become so anxious that she can t concentrate on schoolwork.Yep, that was me, all right Queen Bees hits the nail on the head when it informs readers that teens will rarely tell their parents the whole scope of what s going on The insidious thing about bullying is the way it takes control of your brain Are they seeing something I m not There must be something really wrong with me I can t let my parents know I m such a loser, they would be so ashamed Although my parents were aware I wasn t treated well, they had no idea of the true scope of it all I honestly wish this book would have been available to them when I was starting junior high and high school Wiseman also categorizes students outside the social cliques I imagine I would have best fit into the Quiet, Morose Girl Loner mold in high schooland, well, as an adult, for that matter I do wish Wiseman would have talkedabout how our social roles in youth often influence the development of our personalities as adults The author spends much time discussing the crucial aspect of boyfriends and correctly states that a relationship is a crucial validation for a girl that increases her sense of self worth What she does not state is that this value explicitly takes its cues from adulthood We are not a culture that holds singledom in high regard Even though I was very much an adult when I entered into my first serious relationship, I too felt the rush of validation when I could finally say I had a boyfriend Most females in our culture look to males for feelings of belonging and self worth, and this is a problem of society in general, not just youth culture

  8. Claire Greene Claire Greene says:

    This book is a must read if you have children Not even just a girl, but any children This book gives an enormous amount of insight into girls and, for that matter, women Even if you have a boy, he will either date girls or be friends with them or both, so reading this book will still prove invaluable The book itself is written well very personable with a balance between informative information facts, science, studies , personal anecdotes of both teens and moms, quotes from teen girls and a This book is a must read if you have children Not even just a girl, but any children This book gives an enormous amount of insight into girls and, for that matter, women Even if you have a boy, he will either date girls or be friends with them or both, so reading this book will still prove invaluable The book itself is written well very personable with a balance between informative information facts, science, studies , personal anecdotes of both teens and moms, quotes from teen girls and a good amount humor The resources section in the back alone is worth the price of the book in my opinion But beyond that, she has a great way of putting it all together to create an enjoyable and informative book.I ll admit that the book also did a lot of eye opening for me with regard to my own high school experiences and friends I was NOT a queen bee but it was very interesting to realize what type I was, why certain circumstances were the way they were or played out the way they did ie queen bees being jealous and asserting their dominance, which I now realize had nothing to do with me, etc and TONS of suggestions on how to understand and deal with your teen daughter in a way that will honestly help while not being overly permissive That fact is one I really appreciated I often read things that seem to suggest being friends and allowing almost anything, which isn t something I don t agree with and can t stand The author gives many realistic suggestions not always what you want to hear, but based in reality and supports them with quotes from teen girls, specific examples, and describes in detail why they would be effective.There were a few times I thought it got a bit dry and I have been trying to get through and finish the book FOREVER, but I think it hadto do with the hectic nature of my life lately than any reflection on the author or her abilities But I mention it because if you are not able to really read the book and give it the attention it deserves, I d recommend setting it on the to read shelf until you do have the time If that will never happen on its own, then try to make the time because this book is invaluable I know I ll be reading it again before my daughter becomes a teen and when she does, I plan on having this as a reference book and always handy, because I ll need it

  9. Corinne Edwards Corinne Edwards says:

    I have a thirteen year old daughter.There.I said it.Parenting said daughter is one of the most challenging things I have ever had to do and at this point in my life, that s saying something It s also one of the most rewarding because when we have a breakthrough or a tender moment, I appreciate it like I have never appreciated anything else This book is like a travelguide into the world of parenting teen girls we learn to navigate cliques and parties, harassment and dishonesty, mean girls an I have a thirteen year old daughter.There.I said it.Parenting said daughter is one of the most challenging things I have ever had to do and at this point in my life, that s saying something It s also one of the most rewarding because when we have a breakthrough or a tender moment, I appreciate it like I have never appreciated anything else This book is like a travelguide into the world of parenting teen girls we learn to navigate cliques and parties, harassment and dishonesty, mean girls and teaching responsibiliy What I like about her style is that she made me feel like there were things I could do to make a difference in my daughter s life and gave very specific examples, sometimes role plays even, to help me know how I can handle particularly tough parenting moments She empowered me to take a stand when it matters and to let things go when they don t Truly, the part in particular about picking battles really helped me to readjust my thinking into aflexible and compromising state and it helped my relationship with my daughter immensely She taught me about what girl world is like and how hard it is for her to make a place for herself while still staying to true to the person she is and wants to be.I liked how she made us check our baggage pay attention to how our own experiences and values may be clouding how we react to our daughters and their choices I also liked all the quotes she gave from girls she has worked with it certainly gives you a different perspective There is a big section at the end about intimacy and rape and how to help your daughter make safe choices or how to handle it when things go very wrong.What I missed, and what I just read has been covered in an updated version of the book, is the influence of technology on Girl World texting, social media, how to help your daughter to make wise technology decisions and how to handle cyber bullying I probably will honestly check out this new version from the library because I really do like her honesty and straightforward style.A piece of advice I honestly wouldn t try reading this until you begin to sense that the teenager switch has flipped on your daughter, or at least wait until middle school to read it Otherwise, it will scare your pants off

  10. Rachel Rachel says:

    Ugh, I really, really didn t like this book I do not parent my kids in this way nor do I think that there is anything redeeming about the application of this book I should have know by reading the back of this book that I would hate it I really, really wanted to like this book I hoped to find helpful and useful tools to use and gain insight into these years The landmines were ridiculous and insulting to read The book suggests that we, parents, are completely stupid and not attuned to our Ugh, I really, really didn t like this book I do not parent my kids in this way nor do I think that there is anything redeeming about the application of this book I should have know by reading the back of this book that I would hate it I really, really wanted to like this book I hoped to find helpful and useful tools to use and gain insight into these years The landmines were ridiculous and insulting to read The book suggests that we, parents, are completely stupid and not attuned to our kids in the least While I don t doubt that this author is passionate in the work that she does, I do doubt her authority in the field According to her bio on her website, she has no education or formal training in the area of adolescents or psychology or teaching or anything vaguely related to this book She did receive her undergraduate in Political Science in 1991 Oh, unless you want to count her second degree black belt in Tang Soo Do karate Yes, I m serious, it s listed in her bio.Overly simplistic, gross generalization, and opinions presented as fact are a few of the themes throughout the book The book has little to no research to back up the findings of the author This book just further perpetuates the stereotypes into which our society pigeon holes our youth Further, as a Christian mom, trying to raise a godly young woman, this book is completely devoid of any moral, ethical or character matters And although you might want not to admit it, she can even have a sexually healthy and responsible relationship with that boyfriend Page 259 Research over decades suggests that sexual behavior, identity and orientation exist on a spectrum where a minority of people are exclusively homosexual or exclusively heterosexual Everyone else fits somewhere in the middle page 221 WHAT research Seeing sexual identity and gender as fluid, changing and existing in a spectrum of possibilities challenges the fundamental tenets of our society and culture pg 222 Great for clueless parents

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *