The Sister Knot: Why We Fight, Why We're Jealous, and Why

The Sister Knot: Why We Fight, Why We're Jealous, and Why We'll Love Each Other No Matter What ➽ [Reading] ➿ The Sister Knot: Why We Fight, Why We're Jealous, and Why We'll Love Each Other No Matter What By Terri Apter ➲ – Thomashillier.co.uk This “substantial contribution to the literature on sibling relationships” Library Journal explores the intricacy, friction, and love in bonds between sisters Relationships between women are o This “substantial contribution Knot: Why PDF/EPUB è to the literature on sibling relationships” Library Journal explores the intricacy, friction, and love in bonds between sisters Relationships between women are often freighted with a rocky mix of emotions—devotion and disregard, affection and loathing, admiration and envy—leading to anguish and confusion on the playground, in the home, and in the boardroom Negotiating her layered feelings toward a sister shapes a woman’s psychology as forcefully as do her relationships with her parents Drawing on compelling interviews and new research, Terri Apter considers The Sister Epub / the many aspects of the sister relationship from birth through adulthood The need to fight to differentiate oneself from a sister, as well the protectiveness one feels for that same person, is explained by reference to extensive psychological and biological evidence.


10 thoughts on “The Sister Knot: Why We Fight, Why We're Jealous, and Why We'll Love Each Other No Matter What

  1. Rebecca Rebecca says:

    I was looking for more from this book than I felt it ended up offering. Apter used lots of psychology jargon but mostly it didn't feel like it said a whole lot. Most frustrating was that I never found a place where she actually defined the sister knot -- she kept referring to it, but it seemed like she should have laid out a clear definition of the term, and I never found one, not even in the chapter CALLED The Sister Knot. I think she assumed that the reader would have a certain familiarity with psych jargon used to talk about sibling relationships, and with the previous scholarly literature on the topic, and I don't have that background. It did pick up a bit in the 2nd half of the book, where she had more real-life examples from interviews with pairs or groups of sisters, but in the end I'm not sure I got much out of this book. Hopefully Deborah Tannen's You Were Always Mom's Favorite will be a better read on this topic.


  2. Louise Louise says:

    The psychology of sister relationships. Read after a particularly nasty fight with one of my sisters. Don't be deterred by the title (...why we'll love each other no matter what), it's actually an interesting book.

    Juno & Juliet deals with twins/sisters much better though.


  3. Susan Katz Susan Katz says:

    BORING!!!


  4. Cindy Whiteaker Cindy Whiteaker says:

    Terrible. Couldn’t even finish it. Reads like a thesis paper.


  5. Alessandra Alessandra says:

    Wasn't a fan of this book, unfortunately. I found little substance other than sorry little retellings of sibling conflicts. I didn't feel like there was any conclusion or depth to the book.


  6. Suzanne Suzanne says:

    A book to come back to perhaps. It is a little academic, yet doesn't ever really seem to get to the point of what the author is trying to say. There was some interesting parts, explaining the psychology of the relationship.
    As I have a younger sister it was very relevant to me. But I suppose the sisters, as shown by the great many case studies provided in the book, are the expert on the subject.
    Readers I imagine, like me want to know the why, why, why, why! Not the how, we've been there and done that. And I think the emphasis was a little too much on the how and not enough on the why.
    But for a sister, it is an interesting read all the same, and I think it's a book I will definitely come back to again in the future.


  7. stephanie stephanie says:

    fascinating study of sisters - in a way that hasn't been done before, looking at it from a very feminist perspective - and definitely ruling out the oedipus/elektra complexes, and deals more with how siblings create existential crises for each other - in that you suddenly realize you have someone else in your life that could replace you, that your self as you've defined it has changed, and will continue to change - but it's a very small study done in the UK, so i am interested to see her conclusions.


  8. Alisa Alisa says:

    Disappointing. I picked this up hoping for examples of real sister relationships, anecdotes, snippets from interviews, etc. According to the introduction, the author did interview a lot of siblings, but rather than use these interviews to illustrate her theories, she keeps the details to herself and merely reiterates her theories, repeatedly. Also, the author seems always to be arguing with some invisible 'other', as if she is defending a deprecated viewpoint - but since I went into this w/o a viewpoint, looking for information and insight, felt a bit like I was being pummeled unfairly.


  9. Heather Heather says:

    SWE Book Club Dec 2011

    This book was okay; it did not meet my expectations. Although some of the anecdotes were interesting, I found myself scratching my head after finishing the book, thinking, Okay, now what? The author describes all these various sibling scenarios (sisters or otherwise), but doesn't give suggestions or insight about how to improve those relationhips as children or adults. Also, there are clearly no prototypical relationships amongst siblings, as evidenced in her book and our book club discussion. So, some thought-provoking a-ha moments, but that's about it.


  10. Kim Kim says:

    This was a very interesting book about relationships between sisters and a little about siblings in general. I really got into it more in the last few chapters as it seemed to dig more into some of the questions/thoughts I had regarding sisters. There was some interesting thoughts on the dynamics between two sisters and also between families that had more than two and/or a brother mixed in as well.


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