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A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns Archie, A Snarky Genderqueer Artist, Is Tired Of People Not Understanding Gender Neutral Pronouns Tristan, A Cisgender Dude, Is Looking For An Easy Way To Introduce Gender Neutral Pronouns To His Increasingly Diverse Workplace The Longtime Best Friends Team Up In This Short And Fun Comic Guide That Explains What Pronouns Are, Why They Matter, And How To Use Them They Also Include What To Do If You Make A Mistake, And Some Tips And Tricks For Those Who Identify Outside Of The Binary To Keep Themselves Safe In This Binary Centric World A Quick And Easy Resource For People Who Use They Them Pronouns, And People Who Want To Learn


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  1. says:

    It will take you fifteen minutes to read this little comic book It will probably take you almost as long to read this review The book is written and illustrated by Archie non binary, who uses they them pronouns and Tristan cis male, who uses he him It s a quick, light hearted, and practical guide to how to use they them pronouns for those non binary people who like to be addressed that way not all do For example Chris put on their jeans and then they went to the supermarket. Image Que It will take you fifteen minutes to read this little comic book It will probably take you almost as long to read this review The book is written and illustrated by Archie non binary, who uses they them pronouns and Tristan cis male, who uses he him It s a quick, light hearted, and practical guide to how to use they them pronouns for those non binary people who like to be addressed that way not all do For example Chris put on their jeans and then they went to the supermarket. Image Queer Utopia not there yet, hence this book. There s also a little bit of the why But not much, because Image It doesn t matter why However, I think many people unfamiliar with the idea that gender isn t divided rigidly into two distinct categories often do want to understand why not to pry into the lives of individuals, but to understand the broader issues You won t get that context from the book, but you might from this review.tl drRegardless of how much you understand or approve of this terminology Good manners mean you should try to address people as they want to be addressed, whether that is Khalid, rather than Kal they, rather than she or Mrs Webster, rather than Susan Non binary people find repeated misgendering demeaning and stressful If in doubt, ask someone what pronouns they use, perhaps by giving yours first not by asking if they re male or female When you make a mistake, correct yourself, and move on, without making an overwrought apology Spoiler alert you will make mistakes Singular they is grammatically fine, as explained below.Basic Terms Non binary , gender fluid or genderqueer people don t feel fully, traditionally, or consistently male or female Like a girl who is a tomboy most of the time, but occasionally likes dressing up in pink frills and doing so called girly stuff These people often prefer they theirs pronouns instead of he his or she hers and do not like gendered nouns like woman man, son daughter, or girlfriend boyfriend applied to them Image Examples of gendered and non gendered nounsGrammar of Singular They it s OKThe grammatical objection is easy to dismiss Since the demise of thee thou, you your has been used as singular and plural And singular they their has been used for centuries, by writers including Chaucer, Austen, Byron, Eliot, Trollope, and Dickens, particularly where someone s gender isn t known someone left their coat behind It s also common generically in Vanity Fair 1848 , Thackeray has Rosalind say A person can t help their birth , and I ve yet to read a review where anyone complains about it.The authoritative dictionaries and style guides in the English speaking world accept it, though there seems to beresistance among US grammar mavens than those in the UK, where it s always been in common use If you re British, see Oxford Dictionaries on the matter If you re USican, see Merriam Webster If you re in NZ, Canada, Australia, or any other English speaking country, you ll have to find your own authority, but this is an excellent analysis of the grammar and history Singular they and the many reasons it s correct You match the verb with they , which soundsnatural they are and you are , regardless of the number of people you re referring to not they is or you is For example Chris bought new jeans because they are going to a party tonight It can occasionally be ambiguous, but that s easily avoided or fixed TerminologyBack to people Non binary people are not usually transsexuals or medically intersex, and the only correlation with sexuality is that if your gender is not firmly male or female, you re unlikely to identify as completely straight Sexuality is OUTward looking who you re attracted to Sex is about biology chromosomes and reproductive organs Clearcut for most Gender is INward looking who you feel you are It is usually reflected in how you present yourself to the world For the vast majority of people, their gender corresponds to what the doctor midwife parents presumed at birth the term for that is cis.Image Genderbread Person v3 Source See also The Gender Unicorn at transstudent.orgSome non binary people continue to use their gendered birth name and to have a beard or prominent bust You can t tell someone s gender just by looking.Trans is Not the SameTrans people transgender transsexual feel the gender assigned at birth was wrong, and they transition not necessarily surgically to living as the other gender full time, permanently Transvestites are people who only sometimes dress as their non birth sex.Spectrums and LabelsWhereas sex is usually clear, gender isa matter of degree and arguably, a social construct , rather than a binary concept one of two labels The idea that gender is not rigidly binary or tied solely to chromosomes is strange to many of us However, many cultures had and do have words and roles for such people It s not a modern western invention See Wikipedia s Third Gender page.I ve never doubted that I m female, but most of the time, I m not an especially feminine one, so I can understand and empathise to some extent What I can t personally relate to is the need for a label, let alone different nouns and pronouns I can just be a woman who s sometimes a bit of a tomboy tomman However, my twenty something kid is firmly non binary, as is their partner, so we use they them for them individually and as a couple Be KindFor me, it comes back to good manners and empathy, without which it is very difficult to have good relationships And what relationship isimportant than between parents and children But it goes both ways Good manners should be applied to those who don t know, don t understand, or just get muddled by new terminology hence this book If I slip up rare, now , and I don t correct myself, my husband or child will But with elderly relatives, we just model the correct pronouns, but don t correct mistakes If they love and accept our child, but don t quite get or remember this new fangled terminology, that s what is important Context matters, too I would be unlikely to correct anyone at a funeral, unless they were misgendering the deceased Image Ways to change your languageWho Is This Book For Books like this are important, and the authors have a gentle approach to their mission, but I m not sure they ve really thought about their target audience The format is geared to pre teens, teens, and YA, but the content isdirected at those unfamiliar with the terminology, most of who are likely to be older There s a section on how to introduce gender neutral awareness in professional settings, for instance But near the end, there s a section on coming out as non binary, which seems aimedat youthful readers though obviously one can come out at any age In a nice touch, all the people at the publishing house, are listed at the front, giving their name, pronouns, and job title But they re all he him or she her Language Change is Pretty QueerA living language evolves otherwise nice pedant would mean stupid teacher Even though singular they is nothing new, this particular usage is Similarly, all the other terms here are subject to change, and even now, what is the norm in the UK may not be the norm in other English speaking countries.In particular, queer is currently the umbrella term in the UK for LGBTQ , so encompassing all the above, andHowever, it s also still used as a slur Don t be shocked if queer people use it, but if in doubt, avoid using it yourself.Image More examples of validating language Source See Also Sally Hines Is Gender Fluid , which I reviewed HERE It also has a very youthful, funky format, though not comic book Alex Iantaffi and Meg John Barker s Life Isn t Binary, which I reviewed HERE It starts with sexualities and genders, but goes on to relationships, bodies, emotions, and thinking Barker likes they because I experience myself as pretty plural Cordelia Fine s Delusions of Gender, which I reviewed HERE, an antidote to Mars and Venus Robert Webb s autobiography, How Not to be a Boy, which I reviewed HERE He rails against the damage gender stereotypes do to men and women


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    3.5 Edited to recommend people read Yzabel s and Cecily s comments below for suggestions He She went to the store They went to the store.It belongs to him her It belongs to them.He said so himself They said so themself themselves.She said so herself They said so themself themselves. This handy little graphic production can help us with language At the moment it s a 5 star idea whose time has certainly come, but it s maybe a 3 star execution, so I m splitting the difference Gender 3.5 Edited to recommend people read Yzabel s and Cecily s comments below for suggestions He She went to the store They went to the store.It belongs to him her It belongs to them.He said so himself They said so themself themselves.She said so herself They said so themself themselves. This handy little graphic production can help us with language At the moment it s a 5 star idea whose time has certainly come, but it s maybe a 3 star execution, so I m splitting the difference Genderqueer, genderfluid, non binary, whatever label is used it means that an individual does not identify as male or female, no matter what they might have been born as See there, what I did I did what we often do as shorthand when we don t want to keep saying he or sheavoiding saying no matter what he or she might have been born as.It s actually accepted practice in speech and becoming accepted in less than formal writing to use they as a singular, and it goes back to at least the 15th century and Shakespeare, in case you were wondering that part is pretty easy It gets harder when you re referring to a specific person who either chooses to be identified using gender neutral pronouns and they may let you know that when they are introduced or not , or it s a person whose gender you can t identify by the usual visual clues The book says if a person named Robert asks to be addressed as Bob, you probably do as you re asked The book suggests people will begin letting each other know when they prefer they or whatever As I m writing this, there s a medical program on TV, and a person with a crewcut, dressed in navy scrubs, is speaking to the camera I have the sound off, and when I glanced up, I wondered if the person was male or female I couldn t tell When the captions came up, the person was identified as Jen , so I assume they re female, but had the name been Sam or Kim or any number of foreign names that are unfamiliar to me, I couldn t assume anything.So I might ask someone watching with me Do you think they re a man or a woman I might say that person talking , but I certainly wouldn t say it.This little handbook has rough cartoons and tries hard to be light hearted and funny about what is a pretty serious subject Being mis gendered is embarrassing, just as it s embarrassing if you ask a woman with a pot belly when the baby s due It happens We assume a lot from appearances People used to make fun of people who shaved their heads, but these days it could be anything from a fashion statement to the results of cancer treatment, and most of us are pretty careful not to assume anything.When I was about 12, I was on horseback high above the guys driving by me on the track who stopped to look up and ask directions I had a duck tail or a DA, so called in those days and was in jeans and cowboy boots, so after I answered their question, one of them said Thank you, sir or madam, as the case may be I said It happens to be madam and laughed, fancying myself a bit of a cowboy anyway I thought it was funny, but if I d been a boy, I probably would have been devastated That s a personal case of being mis gendered These days, in Australia, they would just have said Thanks, mate and left it at that, since that s handy for anyone.There are other made up words that are accepted use instead of they their, such as Ze, Ne, Xe, and there s plenty of information on the internet you can google Here s one blog may not know if there are people in your workplace, school, or community who would prefer gender neutral pronouns, but this is happening, whether or not you re ready for it It s not the same as the royal we or one , although that could occasionally be useful.It s easy when addressing groups to say folks or people or delegates instead of ladies and gentleman And use students or kids instead of boys and girls If you re identifying someone in a crowd, you can say the person in the blue shirt instead of the woman in the blue shirt.See But it gets awkward to me when you use the example they gave Archie spent all their money on candy Archie is eating so much candy that they are sick Archie has learned nothing and they will continue to eat too much candy What s wrong with them In the first sentence, I might think Archie has spentthan just Archie s money It s a bit ambiguous I think I could learn to adapt if I were really unsure as to the gender of the person, like the one I just saw on TV In that case, I m pretty sure I d say That looks like a really easy hairstyle I bet they don t have to spend any time getting ready for work But if I were convinced they were a male or a female, I m sure I d slip and lapse into he or she.Food for thought There are a few inaccuracies in the book at the moment, but I m hoping they will be corrected Thanks to NetGalley and Limerence Press for the preview copy.P.S And for anyone interested in the use of they as singular, it s nice to know it is becomingaccepted in grammar in instances where writers are taught to say he or she Here s an interesting Oxford English Dictionary blog post


  3. says:

    I was sent this book as an advanced copy by the publisher via NetGalley for reviewing purposes, but all opinions are my own. I picked this up from the Read Now shelf on netgalley hoping to find something informative that I could recommend others, and that s exactly what this was I knew almost everything that was in this short comic, but I still learned some new stuff Since English isn t my first language, I found the quick guides on how to use gender neutral language pretty useful because s I was sent this book as an advanced copy by the publisher via NetGalley for reviewing purposes, but all opinions are my own. I picked this up from the Read Now shelf on netgalley hoping to find something informative that I could recommend others, and that s exactly what this was I knew almost everything that was in this short comic, but I still learned some new stuff Since English isn t my first language, I found the quick guides on how to use gender neutral language pretty useful because sometimes I m not sure what terms are gendered and which aren t or how to substitute a gendered noun etc.Throughout the book I was also trying to put myself in the shoes of someone who s completely new to the concept of non binary people and read it through their eyes I think the authors did a great job at summarizing both the technicalities of gender neutral language and the effects that misgendering may have on genderqueer people Everything was backed up by useful, everyday examples.The first part of the comic is directed at cis people who want to learn about gender neutral language especially using they them when talking to about someone who uses these pronouns and want to support their enby friends The second part is directed at non binary people themselves, with advice on what to do in different situations I feel weird judging a book like this because I don t think it s really my place, but I definitely recommend reading it if you re new to these concepts and also if you re cis and an ally but still want a reminder of what to do and not to do It s also something great to buy once it comes out as a physical copy and leave at your workplace like suggested in the book itself or anywhere you might want to implement gender neutral language to help your non binary colleagues friends feel included


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    A fun, easy introduction to they them pronouns with some pretty awesome graphics to boot.I m no novice when it comes to trans issues, but I ll admit that I know much less about people who identify as genderqueer I knew a person who identified as genderqueer when I was in college, but has since adapted she her pronouns, so my first hand knowledge of someone who is genderfluid or genderqueer is extremely limited However, I m always up to learn and grow as a person in this crazy world we live in, A fun, easy introduction to they them pronouns with some pretty awesome graphics to boot.I m no novice when it comes to trans issues, but I ll admit that I know much less about people who identify as genderqueer I knew a person who identified as genderqueer when I was in college, but has since adapted she her pronouns, so my first hand knowledge of someone who is genderfluid or genderqueer is extremely limited However, I m always up to learn and grow as a person in this crazy world we live in, and understanding different people and different perspectives in a big part of that journey My favorite part of this little book was the really skilled artistry of the comics They were fun with informative with witty dialogue, and it easily kept me reading and engaged I learned a number of things as well, and any take away from a book like this one is meaningful I like that this book furthers the dialogue between cis people and their trans genderqueer acquaintances and friends, and I think it would be a good starter book for someone who wants to learn the basics of gender neutral pronouns Copy provided in exchange for an honest review


  5. says:

    This is a great little guide for anyone with questions about people who use alternative pronouns like They Them or Zir Zim This is about non binary or gender non comforming people They don t feel like they are on either spectrum, but they are in the middle.I spent a few summers working at Camp Aranu tiq where there were several non binary people It was an awesome summer working with kids I have to say, I had a hard time with this and mis pronouned often I got very mad at myself for having s This is a great little guide for anyone with questions about people who use alternative pronouns like They Them or Zir Zim This is about non binary or gender non comforming people They don t feel like they are on either spectrum, but they are in the middle.I spent a few summers working at Camp Aranu tiq where there were several non binary people It was an awesome summer working with kids I have to say, I had a hard time with this and mis pronouned often I got very mad at myself for having such a problem with it I have gotten much better about it It is a totally different mindset and I had to really undo much of what I learned as a kid It s not easy, but it makes non binary people feel so accepted if I can just use their preferred pronoun It is also focusingon something else than gender The person in the paisley shirt instead of her or woman.The guide is amazing and easy to read and explains things well It really does make a great gift to help make the world a better place


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    I got an ARC copy of this book.Gender is my thing Sexuality is my thing too They both hold a very dear place in my heart As soon as I saw the name of this book I pounced There was no way I was passing up on this book The cover was cutesy and it was something I might want to take lessons from for the class I teach The book talks about pronouns There is some technical talk, which one of the characters is really bored through Then they start to break it down into real people talk There is I got an ARC copy of this book.Gender is my thing Sexuality is my thing too They both hold a very dear place in my heart As soon as I saw the name of this book I pounced There was no way I was passing up on this book The cover was cutesy and it was something I might want to take lessons from for the class I teach The book talks about pronouns There is some technical talk, which one of the characters is really bored through Then they start to break it down into real people talk There is discussion on how to use a pronoun, when to use pronouns, and why it matters This book covers a ton and I learned a lot about language from it If you already use gender neutral pronouns for someone you love or even yourself, then this book is just reaffirming things you understand If you don t, it is a great introduction There was purposeful misgendering of Archie to prove a point That point is how damaging misgendering can be for someone There is even talk about how it is ok to feel angry, cut people out of your life, and that sometimes people love you but will never get it It was a wonderful section and that section is so important for queer people to read Family is not blood for a lot of queer people Family are the people who love you and the people on your side This book validates that experience and allows someone to see just how hard pronouns can be on someone when you get them wrong It was just so well done The book is not just a book for beginners If you already know your stuff, this book is still interesting The art is cutesy and I adored it Then there were some really funny sections like Tristan giving a new meaning to YOLO and his hat that made his life easier because it was a hat of ignorance LOVELY I was snorting This book could have been super dry and dusty, something no one but supreme nerds like me would have read Instead it was really approachable and helpful.To seereviews check out


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    edit 18.06.15 I thoughtabout this book and realised that maybe 5 stars is too high, so I m changing my review to 4 I still think it s a good start to learn about nonbinary pronouns for someone who doesn t know anything, though, and I think that s kind of the aim of it I received a free copy through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. Note I am a nonbinary person who uses she her and e em pronouns This was truly a quick, easy and useful read, just as the title promises A Quick edit 18.06.15 I thoughtabout this book and realised that maybe 5 stars is too high, so I m changing my review to 4 I still think it s a good start to learn about nonbinary pronouns for someone who doesn t know anything, though, and I think that s kind of the aim of it I received a free copy through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. Note I am a nonbinary person who uses she her and e em pronouns This was truly a quick, easy and useful read, just as the title promises A Quick and Easy Guide is a basic introduction to nonbinary people and gender neutral pronouns specifically they them pronouns, although the same rules and examples can be applied to any gender neutral pronouns.The book is written by Archie, a nonbinary person, and Tristan, a cisgender ally, and it can be useful for both allies, and nonbinary people who are figuring themselves out Other than just explaining how to use gender neutral pronouns, it touches on a lot of other topics, like what misgendering feels like, how you can help if your friend gets misgendered, how to act if you accidentally misgender someone, why phrasing such as preferred pronouns is not a good idea, etc.The section written for nonbinary people also addresses that while sometimes you might have to compromise or pick your battles, it s not worth holding on to people who consistently misgender and disrespect you Which can be difficult to accept, especially if it s someone close to you, but trust me, it s true.This is obviously not a complete resource, because it s impossible to talk about every nonbinary experience in so few pages, but for a basic resource, I was surprised by how many things and concerns it included.tldr This is a good introduction to gender neutral pronouns for people who are new to the concept it s a good place to start, and it also encourages further reading


  8. says:

    Exactly what the title suggests A quick and easy guide to they them pronouns, which are increasingly being used though have been used for literally centuries I m non binary and, having just came out this year, am still getting used to they them pronouns for myself and it even mentions misgendering yourself Which I have done It s awkward But it s normal I mean i ve used she her pronouns for 30 years, of course it takes getting used to.I then gave it to my cis male husband who has been won Exactly what the title suggests A quick and easy guide to they them pronouns, which are increasingly being used though have been used for literally centuries I m non binary and, having just came out this year, am still getting used to they them pronouns for myself and it even mentions misgendering yourself Which I have done It s awkward But it s normal I mean i ve used she her pronouns for 30 years, of course it takes getting used to.I then gave it to my cis male husband who has been wonderfully supportive of me coming out as non binary His exact words when he was done Everyone needs to read this It took both of us less than half an hour each to read It s quick It s easy And it s seriously helpful


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    I received a free copy of this book from NetGalleyThis is very simple beginner s guide to they them pronouns I ve already known pretty much all of those information but the thing is it took me a lot of TIME to learn that and while I do not think that time was wasted I wish I had a guide like this one back when I first learned that there arethan two genders Coming from a conservative family, those concepts were completely new to me and I didn t know where to start this book is a good st I received a free copy of this book from NetGalleyThis is very simple beginner s guide to they them pronouns I ve already known pretty much all of those information but the thing is it took me a lot of TIME to learn that and while I do not think that time was wasted I wish I had a guide like this one back when I first learned that there arethan two genders Coming from a conservative family, those concepts were completely new to me and I didn t know where to start this book is a good start It covers all the basic aspects in an approachable funny way and encourages to look upinformation This book not only gives practical information but also explains the emotions caused by being misgendered and Why You Should Care The second part contains some advice to non binary people on coming out, cuting people out, and reaching out for support __________________________ insta twitter blog booksirens duolingo


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    Thanks to Netgalley for providing a free copy of this book. Brief, concise and relevant This book is so important, especially for those who are just finding out about gender neutral pronouns The authors tried to keep it simple and quick to read, and they succeeded I loved the dynamics between the two narrators It is funny and light hearted but doesn t neglect the weight nor the significance of the topic at any time Everyone should read this Thanks to Netgalley for providing a free copy of this book. Brief, concise and relevant This book is so important, especially for those who are just finding out about gender neutral pronouns The authors tried to keep it simple and quick to read, and they succeeded I loved the dynamics between the two narrators It is funny and light hearted but doesn t neglect the weight nor the significance of the topic at any time Everyone should read this


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