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C.S. Lewis on Grief [Reading] ➷ C.S. Lewis on Grief By C.S. Lewis – Thomashillier.co.uk Grief From losing his mother as a small boy to losing his beloved wife to cancer after only a few years of marriage, C S Lewis was well acquainted with grief The insights in this book will help those Grief From losing his mother as a small boy to losing his beloved wife to cancer after only a few years of marriage, C S Lewis was well acquainted with grief The insights in this book will help those struggling with sorrow to come through with hope and dignity.

  • Hardcover
  • 72 pages
  • C.S. Lewis on Grief
  • C.S. Lewis
  • English
  • 10 March 2017
  • 0785270965

About the Author: C.S. Lewis

Librarian Note There isthan one author in the Goodreads database with this nameClive Staples Lewis was one of the intellectual giants of the twentieth century and arguably one of the most influential writers of his day He was a Fellow and Tutor in English Literature at Oxford University until He was unanimously elected to the Chair of Medieval and Renaissance Literature at Cambridge University, a position he C.S. Lewis PDF/EPUB ² held until his retirement He wrotethan thirty books, allowing him to reach a vast audience, and his works continue to attract thousands of new readers every year His most distinguished and popular accomplishments include Mere Christianity, Out of the Silent Planet, The Great Divorce, The Screwtape Letters, and the universally acknowledged classics The Chronicles of Narnia To date, the Narnia books have sold over million copies and been transformed into three major motion picturesLewis was married to poet Joy Davidman WH Lewis was his elder brother.



10 thoughts on “C.S. Lewis on Grief

  1. Matt Matt says:

    To begin with, let me offer you my condolences If you ve come here to read about C.S Lewis s A Grief Observed, you re probably doing it for a specific reason It s not the thing you reach for in times of sunshine and cloudless days and a future of beautiful forevers It s the thing you reach for when you are casting about in the dark, looking for something, anything, that might help So, I am sorry for your loss For the grief you are experiencing My grief On June 22, 2015, my b To begin with, let me offer you my condolences If you ve come here to read about C.S Lewis s A Grief Observed, you re probably doing it for a specific reason It s not the thing you reach for in times of sunshine and cloudless days and a future of beautiful forevers It s the thing you reach for when you are casting about in the dark, looking for something, anything, that might help So, I am sorry for your loss For the grief you are experiencing My grief On June 22, 2015, my brother in law Paul drowned He was an exceptional human being He was smart a college graduate working on his PhD He was fun He laughed like nothing else He was athletic He played college rugby and climbed mountains and ran 50k trail runs He was a great friend, an incredible brother, and a transcendent uncle He was life personified He died at the age of 24 All grief is different C.S Lewis s grief was the death of his wife Clive Staples Lewis was nearing the age of 60 when he married Helen Joy Gresham nee Davidham, and referred to in A Grief Observed as H , an American divorcee who had come to England, leaving behind an abusive husband Lewis was an Oxford don, a Christian apologist, and the creator of the minimalist epic, The Chronicles of Narnia He wasn t looking for a profound and passionate love, but he found it all the same Lewis knew that Gresham had terminal cancer when they wed For a time, remission gave them some measure of hope The cancer returned, however, and she died, leaving Lewis bereft This, his first great experience of love, and of the loss of love, spurred him to do what he did in such an inimitable fashion He wrote A Grief Observed is a collection of his meditations They are written moment to moment as he experienced them, so that it s almost like an old fashioned live blog But of course, it s Lewis doing the writing Originally, his reflections were so raw, so honest, that they were published under a pseudonym Right from the start, from the very first page, you know that you have found a companion in this strange new world of loss and emptiness that you ve entered No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear I am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid The same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning I keep on swallowing At other times it feels like being mildly drunk, or concussed There is a sort of invisible blanket between the world and me.Yes, that s it exactly The feeling of being concussed I remember standing in the receiving line at Paul s wake for nearly five hours and feeling something that can only be described as palpable nothingness Everything was sad and hard and vivid you will never forget the image of young people seeing a young person in a coffin, never but it didn t really touch me There was a layer between myself and the world I felt like I was observing everything from a distant planet It might be a survival mechanism, this inward retreat, the way that veins constrict when your body is too cold Of course, you are not an observer, and you must, at some point, interact, rejoin the flow of humanity An odd byproduct of my loss is that I m aware of being an embarrassment to everyone I meet At work, at the club, in the street, I see people, as they approach me, trying to make up their minds whether they ll say something about it or not I hate it if they do, and if they don t.Nothing can help you Nothing except the miracle that isn t going to happen But grief isn t logical, so you lash out You expect too much, even though you know in your heart that nothing would really feel right Others sense that, and they don t know how to approach you It s awkward Some over emote Others under emote Some pity you Others are ready to move on five minutes after the funeral I had one friend who managed to do nothing He was a good college buddy, a groomsman in my wedding, yet I never heard a thing Not a phone call, text, email, or raven Based on his Facebook posts, he must have been too busy home brewing For a short span, I felt an irrational anger towards home brewing That has mostly passed People do try, though Even though they don t know what you want and even though you don t know what you want And that is a blessed thing This very human need to try It reminded me of the movie Bang the Drum Slowly, when Henry tells Bruce Everybody knows everybody is dying that s why people are as good as they are Friends who brought meals and groceries Who watched our kids Who weren t afraid to stop by, even though death is a frightening thing, treated by some like a communicable disease you can avoid by ignoring it You can t, by the way Employers gave us time off Coworkers covered our projects Maybe the worst part is the people with whom you must associate, but who don t know your loss You can t tell them, because it s over sharing But by not telling them, it feels like withholding a terrible secret That s when you start to see the utility in mourning clothes Or just a simple black band around your arm that whispers I am among you, but not a part of you. You have to go on So they say You have to go on, except now it is a lonelier place, this life At first I was very afraid of going to places where H and I had been happy our favorite pub, our favorite wood But I decided to do it at once, like sending a pilot up again as soon as possible after he s had a crash Unexpectedly, it makes no difference Her absence is noemphatic in those place than anywhere else It s not local at all Her absence is like the sky, spread over everything.That s the way of it You cannot escape it Anywhere you go Leave it to Lewis to find the simplest, most perfect way to describe it Even at my best I ll quickly snap back to this new reality I think a thousand times a day Paul would ve liked this An absence like the sky, spread over everything This is a book heavy on spirituality This isn t surprising, given its provenance To his credit, Lewis s faith never wavered He gives you an extended discussion about belief, but one that exists within an interesting paradigm Lewis, you see, never doubted God s existence Rather, his dialectic attempts to identify the kind of God that rules above His assumption about God s very existence is comforting I didn t mind these sections of A Grief Observed, though it s not what I was seeking I saw what Lewis was doing as he wrote them he was trying to keep sane by intellectualizing the process It probably helped him to retreat back into what he knew I don t buy any of what he s selling, though If we re being honest, I have my proof about God On the day Paul died, I prayed for him to be saved, and then I prayed to die, and both prayers went unanswered It s almost empirical at this point That s not to say that I don t appreciate faith I do I see how it has literally saved some of the people around me It has provided the comfort, the hope, the solace that one needs to keep going And that s without mentioning how important the Church community has been to my wife s family It is an inspiring and jaw dropping thing to see such generosity Humans are really at their best during the worst You think you know what matters But you can t really know the value of abstractions such as love, family, friends, community, until you are called upon to need it In The Godfather, Mario Puzo s Don Corleone says to a supplicant, If you had built up a wall of friendships you wouldn t have to ask me to help He s right Live your life so that when you die, your wake lasts for hours, and everyone has a story to tell Live your life in such a way that when things go wrong, you are surrounded by a wall of love Paul loved Kurt Vonnegut So here s Vonnegut s advice God damn it, you ve got to be kind It will pay off in the end Lewis didn t set out to write an advice book A Grief Observed is not going to show you the pathway out of despair There are no pithy aphorisms In this slim volume, the size of a pamphlet, Lewis is honest enough to depict his own troubling doubts This is one of the things I m afraid of The agonies, the mad midnight moments, must, in the course of nature, die away But what will follow Just this apathy, this dead flatness Will there come a time when I no longer ask why the world is like a mean street, because I shall take the squalor as normal Does grief finally subside into boredom tinged by faint nausea Hard questions without good answers I feel like I ve joined a club A horrible club I call it the Other People Club For membership, something bad has to happen to you something that would normally happen to other people I take solace in Paul It s a clich to say that so and so would want this or want that I also think it can be true When you know and love someone you know what they would say in a situation, what they would think You can know and love someone enough that they are there even when they are not I don t think Paul would want us all to be unhappy, to view the world as a mean street He loved life too much All of life s lessons come too late to avoid the loss that is the lesson Vonnegut again, from A Man Without a Country I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, If this isn t nice, I don t know what is It s obvious that we should live like that But the sham and drudgery of daily existence makes it hard Morning commutes Internet comment boards Work deadlines The barista who gave you coffee instead of a double shot of whatever All the little things that loom so large until you get that wakeup call that says that never really mattered at all. Of course, I am the king of sweating the small stuff On my first day back from work, I went into the courtroom and within a minute, the judge was screaming at my client, screaming at me, and finally screaming at my client again for reasons that still elude me Normally, this would ve destroyed me I would ve brooded for days This didn t touch me at all As I left the courtroom, one of my colleagues gave me a big smile and whispered Welcome back I laughed until I nearly cried All grief is, in its own way, the same There are many reasons why this book is so valuable It gives voice to what you are feeling It shows you that you are not alone It gets you through an hour or two, and that hour or two is important when time has stopped I leave you where I started, with my condolences I wish you the courage to endure what is to come I wish you strength for the road ahead And if there is a god, I pray that god goes with you

  2. Loretta Loretta says:

    I bought this book about ten years ago for a reason It sat on my bookshelf all that time Recently a Goodreads friend of mine Shirley picked it for me to read for our group s challenge So I couldn t hide from it any.My mother died in January 2007 and my father died in June 2007 To say that I was overcome with grief is a colossal understatement Losing one parent is hard enough but two Bereavement counseling was my lifeline In counseling they suggested I write in a journal to express m I bought this book about ten years ago for a reason It sat on my bookshelf all that time Recently a Goodreads friend of mine Shirley picked it for me to read for our group s challenge So I couldn t hide from it any.My mother died in January 2007 and my father died in June 2007 To say that I was overcome with grief is a colossal understatement Losing one parent is hard enough but two Bereavement counseling was my lifeline In counseling they suggested I write in a journal to express my grief It was a very hard process I was never angry with God I m Catholic for taking them away from me As a matter of fact my faith and love in God increased tremendously Without God s love I don t know how I would have survived.So, that s the reason why A Grief Observed by C.S Lewis sat on my bookshelf for all these years I just didn t want to bring my grief to the forefront again I knew reading the book would bring back a lot of emotions and sadness which, by the way, never really goes away It s just a different kind sadness.A Grief Observed was a painful read I could feel C.S Lewis s heartache, raw emotions I felt a kindred spirit in reading his words and knowing that I wasn t alone in my grief.Death is hard The grieving period is hard It takes time to regroup but in the end you do survive.Thanks Shirley for picking this book for me

  3. Ahmad Sharabiani Ahmad Sharabiani says:

    A Grief Observed, C.S Lewis A Grief Observed is a collection of C S Lewis s reflections on the experience of bereavement following the death of his wife, Joy Davidman, in 1960 The book was first published in 1961 under the pseudonym N.W Clerk, as Lewis wished to avoid identification as the author Though republished in 1963, after his death, under his own name, the text still refers to his wife as H her first name, which she rarely used, was Helen A Grief Observed explores the processe A Grief Observed, C.S Lewis A Grief Observed is a collection of C S Lewis s reflections on the experience of bereavement following the death of his wife, Joy Davidman, in 1960 The book was first published in 1961 under the pseudonym N.W Clerk, as Lewis wished to avoid identification as the author Though republished in 1963, after his death, under his own name, the text still refers to his wife as H her first name, which she rarely used, was Helen A Grief Observed explores the processes undergone by the human brain and mind over the course of grieving The book questions the nature of grief and whether or not returning to normality afterward is even possible within the realm of human existence on earth Based on a personal journal that he kept, Lewis refers to his wife as H throughout the series of reflections, and he reveals that she had died from cancer only three years after their marriage 2016 2008 80 978190625625829 03 1399

  4. Diane Diane says:

    Each person s grief is unique When C.S Lewis wife died in 1960, he journaled and took notes, trying to observe his bereavement This is a short but meaningful read it is less than 100 pages, but it took me several days to finish because I frequently had to put the book down and contemplate certain passages.Lewis often wrote and spoke about his Christianity, and this book has meditations on God and faith and purpose I am not a religious person, so another reader may find these sectionsEach person s grief is unique When C.S Lewis wife died in 1960, he journaled and took notes, trying to observe his bereavement This is a short but meaningful read it is less than 100 pages, but it took me several days to finish because I frequently had to put the book down and contemplate certain passages.Lewis often wrote and spoke about his Christianity, and this book has meditations on God and faith and purpose I am not a religious person, so another reader may find these sectionsmeaningful I wasinterested in his writings that focused on his grief and how he coped As Goodreads friend Matt mentioned in his thoughtful review, if you have sought out this book, it might be because you have recently lost someone and you are seeking solace, as I was My mother died a few months ago after a long battle with cancer, and it was devastating Since then I ve found it helpful to read other grief memoirs it is comforting to remember one isn t alone on this journey Maybe this book will help you, too.Meaningful Quotes Part of every misery is, so to speak, the misery s shadow or reflection the fact that you don t merely suffer but have to keep on thinking about the fact that you suffer I not only live each endless day in grief, but live each day thinking about living each day in grief Talk to me about the truth of religion and I ll listen gladly Talk to me about the duty of religion and I ll listen submissively But don t come talking to me about the consolations of religion or I shall suspect that you don t understand And grief still feels like fear Perhaps,strictly, like suspense Or like waiting just hanging about waiting for something to happen It gives life a permanently provisional feeling It doesn t seem worth starting anything I can t settle down I yawn, I fidget, I smoke too much Up till this I always had too little time Now there is nothing but time Almost pure time, empty successiveness You can t see anything properly while your eyes are blurred with tears Tonight all the hells of young grief have opened again the mad words, the bitter resentment, the fluttering in the stomach, the nightmare unreality, the wallowed in tears For in grief nothing stays put One keeps on emerging from a phase, but it always recurs Round and round Everything repeats In so far as this record was a defense against total collapse, a safety valve, it has done some good The other end I had in view turns out to have been based on a misunderstanding I thought I could describe a state make a map of sorrow Sorrow, however, turns out to be not a state but a process It needs not a map but a history, and if I don t stop writing that history at some quite arbitrary point, there s no reason why I should ever stop There is something new to be chronicled every day Grief is like a long valley, a winding valley where any bend may reveal a totally new landscape Did you ever know, my dear, how much you took away with you when you left You have stripped me even of my past, even of the things we never shared

  5. Donald Barnett Donald Barnett says:

    After my wife passed away from cancer and I was in the depths of grief, well meaning friends kept bringing me what I call victory books These are books about dealing with the death of a loved one that basically said, If you were a victorious Christian you would get over this I wanted to throw those books in the pond behind my house I hurt bad and I didn t want to get over it I loved her for 20 years and to just get over it was to count her as unimportant in my life Somehow, and I don After my wife passed away from cancer and I was in the depths of grief, well meaning friends kept bringing me what I call victory books These are books about dealing with the death of a loved one that basically said, If you were a victorious Christian you would get over this I wanted to throw those books in the pond behind my house I hurt bad and I didn t want to get over it I loved her for 20 years and to just get over it was to count her as unimportant in my life Somehow, and I don t remember how, I came across C.S Lewis book A Grief Observed As I read the first page the tears began to flow and I began my healing as I read the author s experience after losing his wife to cancer I realized that I wasn t losing my mind because my thoughts were just like his I have given this book to many people that are in the midst of grieving over the loss of someone, especially spouses It is one of the most important books I have ever read because it met me at my point of need

  6. K.D. Absolutely K.D. Absolutely says:

    Heartwrenching narrative about death and mourning Inspiring musings of somebody who have just lost his loved one Musings that include all phases of grief from shock, pain, acceptance and moving on He even went to the stage of questioning the existence and love of God but in a way is so thought provoking even people with strong faith will need to double check his deep seated beliefs.This 76 page poignant, partly angry and deeply moving journal by Clive Staples C S Lewis 1898 1963 was fir Heartwrenching narrative about death and mourning Inspiring musings of somebody who have just lost his loved one Musings that include all phases of grief from shock, pain, acceptance and moving on He even went to the stage of questioning the existence and love of God but in a way is so thought provoking even people with strong faith will need to double check his deep seated beliefs.This 76 page poignant, partly angry and deeply moving journal by Clive Staples C S Lewis 1898 1963 was first published in 1961 following the death bone cancer, 1960 of his wife Helen Joy Gresham nee Davidman who Lewis fondly referred to as simply H C S Lewis died just two years after this book was published.This book seems to be an ideal companion for people who are in bereavement While reading, you ll have this feeling that Lewis thoughts are yours This is a good idea because C S Lewis is one remarkable Christian writer Screwtape Letters, Miracles A Preliminary Study, Surprised by Joy The Shape of My Early Life, etc and his thoughts are inspiring and can strengthen one s faith especially if that someone has just lost a loved one.I had my share of deaths in the family I lost my dad in 1997 My last grandparent died in 1984 Last month, the 15 y o daughter as young as my daughter Jillian of a first cousin died from leukemia Yesterday, the day I read this book, my maternal aunt was buried.Thus, I was able to identify with Lewis I just had to pull out those painful death experiences while reading Lewis narratives I rode with him in his journey of emotions from his initial shock Chapter 1 , doubts on the love and wisdom of God Chapter 2 , followed by acceptance recognizing that love does not end with death Chapter 3 and finally moving on with a positive attitude and hope that living is still worthwhile Chapter 4 It also offers what you should do to comfort a friend who has just lost someone Do you say she is now at peace or everything happens for a reason or there is no death and death does not matter or she will now live forever in your memory or she is now with God In his moment of grief, Lewis explained that all these words are shallow if not meaningless or even some of them are untrue Something that most of us normally say and we thought that those are comforting could actually be received by our friend as just plain blubbers or even insulting.Before, when reading, I used to write on the very last page of the book, the page numbers where the nice quotes are Lately, I got tired of looking for a pen when reading so I adapted my lawyer brother s style of folding the upper right hand corner the page Out of 76 pages, I almost tip folded every page There were even those pages that I could not decide which direction I would like the fold to be But this is my favorite as this, for me, is the most heart wrenching of them allOh God, God, why did you take such trouble to force this creature out of his shell if it is now doomed to crawl back to be sucked back into itThis is particularly striking because C S Lewis found love in the late middle age when he met Joy, an American writer and a single mother of two sons One of these two sons, Douglas H Gresham, even wrote the second introduction of the edition I have of this book It is a very relevant piece telling what kind of a stepfather Lewis was and how true Lewis and his mother s love was for each other only to be cut short by death Gresham also stressed that The indefinite article the A in the title serves to make it clear that Lewis s grief is not the quintessential grief experience at the loss of a loved one, but one individual s perspective among countless others Even a letter in the title makes a lot of comforting difference.A stunning book A Grief Observed always remember the A

  7. Kim Kim says:

    Reading this book has resulted in an unknown number of panic attacks I think that this should be one of the book jacket reviews How can 73 beautifully deckled pages cause such angst Words, words, words I have a confession I had to read this twice the first time through I was a bit inebriated Okay,than a bit I felt that I needed a little push to get me over that cliff It s almost like thetime passes thehesitant I am to revisit the grief Not that those scabs aren t heal Reading this book has resulted in an unknown number of panic attacks I think that this should be one of the book jacket reviews How can 73 beautifully deckled pages cause such angst Words, words, words I have a confession I had to read this twice the first time through I was a bit inebriated Okay,than a bit I felt that I needed a little push to get me over that cliff It s almost like thetime passes thehesitant I am to revisit the grief Not that those scabs aren t healed but that I ll just fall again, maybe this time it will be worse So, I read And, I didn t remember but upon the second reading and here is another confession I mucked the book up I took one of those fine point pens and underlined and bracketed and exclamation pointed all through it I haven t done that in 20 years So, back to the second reading this felt like I was reading someone else s thoughts on Lewis s thoughts It was a bit off putting I must have gleamed something from that first run through because I realized that I stole one of his theories I was talking to a friend and I mentioned how I felt like I was a house of cards I thought, how brilliant is that A house of cards, like the Brady Kids built for those green stamps This is my life It can be so intricate, so amazing to an outsider Look at her Look at how well she is doing but it only takes one bump, one Tiger chase and it all comes crashing down I am so freaking poeticIs this last note a sign that I m incurable, that when reality smashed my dream to bits, I mope and snarl while the first shock lasts, and then patiently, idiotically, start putting it together again And so always However often the house of cards fall, shall I set about rebuilding it Is that what I m doing now Yep It s been 10 months Really Only 10 months Seems like eons ago, right For some of you Golden Agers, you know what I mean It s not like he wasn t a presence when he was around drama, Rush, drama, Religion, Rush, dramaNo one ever told me that grief felt so like fear I am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid The same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning I keep on swallowing Stop me if you ve heard this one before A Grief Observed is like my pocket bible When I m out in the real world, where life goes on, I can run my fingers across the deckle pages and remember I need to breathe That someone else knows what it s like Even if it was 50 years ago If I had read this before Maurice died it would have been different I had experienced parental deaths before so it s not that element of just death It s the loss of that shared life It s feeling cosmically ripped off Thy Will be Done Lewis talks about this. he talks a lot about religion and how people interpret death and how their feelings are sort of pushed lovingly, of course on you But whatof a fuck you is that phrase Thy will be done Whose will Done Who says Yeah Lewis is chock full of bitterness and so am IAt work, at the club, in the street, I see people, as they approach me, trying to make up their minds whether they ll say something about it or not I hate it if they do, and if they don t..Perhaps the bereaved aught to be isolated in special settlements like lepers Yes, this is all about us Didn t you know Didn t you realize that as you re talking to us about the weather or about something your kid did or about work we re constantly thinking about what we ve been cheated out of It s true It s selfish and pitiful and absolutely, no doubt about it, true Think about that next time you talk to someone who has lost their partner But, never show that you are Because we will see and we will fester and then you ll have to read drawn out book reviews about it Lewis struggles with his faith I find this interesting It s like rubbernecking I, myself, have questioning faith Convenient faith I like to think that his death is for the better that he s in less pain now that we have less of a struggle now But what do I really know Lewis says the same thing who s to say that their existence is any better now They were in pain during life Do they suddenly become gentler to us the moment we are out of the body And if so, whySo, lots of questions Then there s the whole Will I ever see him again Do I believe in that He s dead Six feet under proverbially Pushing up daisies, kicked the bucket, shuffled off the mortal coil, bought the farm, sleeping with the fishes, gave up the ghost, danced the last dance, became living challenged Is there an after life I find myself comforted with thinking that I m going to see him again And then I curse myself out and reason and rationality seeps in and I realize he s a box of dirt stashed away at the funeral home Finis I guess this is my own struggle with faith Not that I really had any to begin with but after the fact, I m conveniently trying to grasp on to the wagon I guess, unlike Lewis, I wasn t let down I wasn t duped But, it was interesting to read his rants the passion and the aching and the illuminations Some times I had that I told you so feeling Some times, I hung my head in shame Does grief finally subside into boredom tinged by faint nausea Lewis does have some epiphanies And for this, I can only give him 4 stars I m biased like that Maybe I don t have the intellect to see as he does Maybe I haven t fully come to terms with it and can persuade myself that in time I will acceptAnd suddenly at the very moment when, so far, I mourned H least, I remembered her best Indeed it was something almost better than memory an instantaneous, unanswerable impression It was as if the lifting of the sorrow removed a barrierThis hasn t come to me yet Each memory is still jarring Each time I see a photo, I am still stunnedThe remembered voice that can turn me at any moment to a whimpering childThat s still there and I own it Reading about his enlightened moments just made me feel lonelier andconfusedAnd all this time I may, once , be building with cards And if I am He will onceknock the building flat He will knock it down as often as proves necessary Unless I have to be finally given up as hopeless, and left building pasteboard palaces in Hell forever free among the dead I like that image pasteboard palaces in Hell forever it doesn t feel hopeless It feels like someone gets it Carry on

  8. Merphy Napier Merphy Napier says:

    This wasn t what I was expecting I thought it would beof a general exploration of grief but instead it was spesific about CS Lewis loosing his wife While there wasn t a lot I could relate to in this type of grief, I m still glad I read it and was able to connect to parts despite our experiences being so different Def recommend for someone who has lost a spouse or is close to someone who recently has

  9. Mia Mia says:

    I read this book for the first time something like four years ago Me, like everyone else who had gone through the loss of a beloved, will surely recognize the same emotions that Lewis describes.It s not easy to give a rational review of this book It s something like a mirror, reading those words makes you feel like Lewis had been looking into your heart when he wrote them.But this is not only a portrait of loss It would be reductive to say that he only speaks about his pain First of all, the I read this book for the first time something like four years ago Me, like everyone else who had gone through the loss of a beloved, will surely recognize the same emotions that Lewis describes.It s not easy to give a rational review of this book It s something like a mirror, reading those words makes you feel like Lewis had been looking into your heart when he wrote them.But this is not only a portrait of loss It would be reductive to say that he only speaks about his pain First of all, the main theme is love May I say it s about Love.It s because that love existed that it could be lost.It s moving the way he talks about his wife and I don t think there will ever be a woman who wouldn t want that kind of love Friendship, complicity, loyalty, honesty, protection, this and muchwas what formed their relationship.Lewis talks about his two major loves God and his wife.He asks the question everybody who have been in pain had at least once asked God why And he does get angry He does get sad, he does scream through ink on paper He screams about his suffering and ours.But yet, this is not a book about pain There is fear There is hope It s not bitter, it s bittersweet, since through screams he understands that a goodbye is not forever, through anger he understands that nothing is really over That she is not really over, she is not really dead till he has got that everlasting hope to rejoin.The book comes near the end with an appointment she ll be there when it ll be his time It s quite funny the way she says that neither Heaven or Hell could stop her And then the book ends leaving you with a little sad smile, a bittersweet emotion which is a mixture of hope, fear, sadness and courage.This book helped me a lot in my darkest days We know he used to say that you become friend with someone saying you too That s why I think about him like a friend, a mentor, a man who wasn t just an intellectual but also a man who was able to touch the human heart in its most wounded spots without falling in mere complaining.I suggest this book to anyone who have suffered the same even if sometimes it takes bravery to look in the mirror of your wounds But, I can promise you, once you do you find yourself a new friend and new hopes

  10. Jon Nakapalau Jon Nakapalau says:

    A beautiful book on losswhat we must search for in our heart when someone we love dies I must confess that this book brought a mixture of hope and dread to me I will ponder the questions C.S Lewis addresses for the rest of my life.

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