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It Happens All the Time [PDF / Epub] ☀ It Happens All the Time ✍ Amy Hatvany – Thomashillier.co.uk Bravely sheds light on sexual assault and consent In alternating perspectives friends Tyler and Amber recount an alcohol fueled night that changed the course of their lives Us Weekly From master story Bravely sheds light on sexual assault and consent All the PDF/EPUB Á In alternating perspectives friends Tyler and Amber recount an alcohol fueled night that changed the course of their lives Us Weekly From master storyteller Amy Hatvany whose writing has been hailed as gripping and emotionally honest Stephanie Evanovich, New York Times betselling author comes It Happens ePUB ½ a provocative and compelling novel about two friends whose lives are changed by a drunken kiss I want to rewind the clock, take back the night when the world shattered I want to erase everything that went wrong Amber Bryant and Tyler Hicks have been best friends since they were teenagers trusting and Happens All the Epub Ý depending on each other through some of the darkest periods of their young lives And while Amber has always felt that their relationship is strictly platonic, Tyler has long harbored the secret desire that they might one day become than friends Returning home for the summer after her college graduation, Amber begins spending time with Tyler than she has in years Despite the fact that Amber is engaged to her college sweetheart, a flirtation begins to grow between them One night, fueled by alcohol and concerns about whether she s getting married too young, Amber kisses Tyler What happens next will change them forever In alternating points of view, It Happens All the Time examines the complexity of sexual dynamics between men and women and offers an incisive exploration of gender roles, expectations, and the ever timely issue of consent.


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  1. Chelsea Humphrey Chelsea Humphrey says:

    FULL REVIEWIf I m being completely honest, this is the hardest review I ve written to date I won this book courtesy of Amy back in October and it s been sitting on my shelf staring at me ever since I had every intention of picking it up and getting this bad boy reviewed by January 1, but everytime I reached for it the lump in my throat and throbbing in my stomach won out and I chose an easier read I m going to stop right here and preface two things 1 If you are wanting to go into this book FULL REVIEWIf I m being completely honest, this is the hardest review I ve written to date I won this book courtesy of Amy back in October and it s been sitting on my shelf staring at me ever since I had every intention of picking it up and getting this bad boy reviewed by January 1, but everytime I reached for it the lump in my throat and throbbing in my stomach won out and I chose an easier read I m going to stop right here and preface two things 1 If you are wanting to go into this book completely blind though I m not sure how you would if you ve seen any marketing for it yet then stop right here I m not going to spoil the read, but I will be delving into the content matter a bit and wanted to give fair warning 2 If you have a rape trigger, I normally advise against reading rape related material, but if you ve ever been a victim of sexual assault I d highly encourage you to read this Hopefully it ll bring you some of the comfort you may never have received from your close ones at your lowest pointsViolators cannot live with the truth survivors cannot live without itChrystine Oksana I m sitting here with tears streaming down my face and snot pouring out my nose because I realized I ve been searching for this book for the past decade this coming October 20 will mark 10 years since the night I was raped As difficult as it is to put those words to paper, it s in the hope that I can reach someone who is silently suffering from a similar situation that needs an anchor My intention is not to make this review about my experience or go into intricate detail however, I want to establish the foundation of why this book is so necessary for women like myself The media for years has pummeled our society with the notion that rape is a rare occurrence and only is acknowledged in the most brutal of circumstances While film and literature tend to portray rape as only happening at the hands of serial killers, kidnappers, and psychopaths, most women are actually assaulted by someone they know, not a stranger I spent many years questioning the validity of my own assault because my attacker was a good guy he had always been kind to people and never once given the impression he was a monster of this sort This book addresses thatrealistic and messy type of situation and helped ease some of the confusion I had struggled with for years.Consent it is the entire foundation for Hatvany s latest novel I can already tell this book will ruffle some feathers and bring up all kinds of discussion and controversy amongst it s readers The plot revolves around Amber and Tyler Amber is the only miracle child of her over protective parents I could easily relate to this being an only child myself and the product of 10 years of trying to conceive after being told having children might not happen for my parents She s been shouldering the weight of feeling like she must succeed in everything to make up for the lack of other children her parents were unable have Tyler moves in next door and becomes the older brother Amber never had together they help each other through some extremely dark times, and although Tyler has always harbored feelings ofthan friendship for Amber, she has never seen him as anythingthan a brother Enter here the controversy of consent Without spoiling the read, we come to a point many years later that stops the reader in their tracks to consider their own belief on where consent lies.All in all, this is the type of story that crosses genre barriers and holds us accountable for our views and how we treat victims While this is a story about the attack and it s ripple effect of consequences, it s also a story of hope and redemption Is it possible for someone to commit an unthinkable act and change Can healing take place between two parties when this level of violation has occurredI love how this book didn t make it easy for the reader there are no clear cut answers or magical happy endings The reality of the attack altering Amber s life forever is something all victims can relate to while it is possible to work through the side effects anxiety, depression, fear, and self loathing with therapy and sometimes medication, there s never a fix all cure that can take back that horrible event This book did, however, present the right questions that we as a society need to consider as we continually see rape cases being paraded across the media in a trivial fashion If you are looking for a book that will grab your heart and cause you to think about some really tough, but timely issues, I highly encourage you to pick up a copy of It Happens All the Time Amy chose to limit the graphic violence and sexual scenes the rape scene is really a very small portion but I believe this made the book all thepowerful and readable while being less showy for the shock value This is a story that will stay with me for years to come I m so proud of the author for sharing via social media her own experience with being assaulted at a young age, her drive to help overcome the stigma surrounding rape, and encouraging the support of victims everywhere Many thanks to the author and publisher for providing my copy and the platform so that I would have the ability to share my own experience If you ve been a victim of sexual assault, please don t suffer alone Reach out for help secrets and trauma can only control you if kept alone and in the dark I ve included some national hotlines with resources to help victims of all kinds of sexual assault National Sexual Assault Hotline1 800 656 4673 24 7 hotline Self Injury Hotline1 800 DON T CUT 366 8288 Suicide Hotline 1.800.SUICIDE 784 2433


  2. Deanna Deanna says:

    My reviews can also be seen at HAPPENS ALL THE TIME is my first read from Amy Hatvany I m surprised it s taken me this long to find her I m certainly looking forward to readingfrom her after reading this novel This was an extremely engrossing read It s an honest and unflinching look at some important issues that desperately need addressing.Twenty four year old Amber and Twenty five year old Tyler are best friends Both have had their own pers My reviews can also be seen at HAPPENS ALL THE TIME is my first read from Amy Hatvany I m surprised it s taken me this long to find her I m certainly looking forward to readingfrom her after reading this novel This was an extremely engrossing read It s an honest and unflinching look at some important issues that desperately need addressing.Twenty four year old Amber and Twenty five year old Tyler are best friends Both have had their own personal struggles, and they have been there for each other for many years, helping each other throughout some of the roughest times in their lives.But one night everything changes for Amber and Tyler.their friendship and their lives will never be the same.The very first sentence grabbed me and didn t let go The story is told alternately from Amber and Tyler s perspectives The chapters alternate following two timelines, the past and the present With each chapterinformation about the night in question and their history is unveiled.IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME deals with many heavy issues Amy Hatvany is a fantastic writer and draws from personal experience in regards to some of the things addressed in this novel It s brutally honest, compelling, and almost impossible to put down I think that many necessary conversations could and should be started about these issues This truly was an excellent, emotional, and very important read.Thank you Atria Books, and Amy Hatvany for providing an advanced readers copy of this book for me to read in exchange for my honest review


  3. Melissa Melissa says:

    There s no doubt, regardless of your feelings for the topic at hand or the characters themselves, this is a thought provoking read at its core Amy Hatvany takes a bold step and strives to open a much needed conversation with a story told not only from the perspective of a woman who gets raped, but from her rapist Powerful in its prose, bringing light to the controversial topic of consent and victim blaming, it s unwavering in its delivery As a woman and a reader, I was a twisted knot of emoti There s no doubt, regardless of your feelings for the topic at hand or the characters themselves, this is a thought provoking read at its core Amy Hatvany takes a bold step and strives to open a much needed conversation with a story told not only from the perspective of a woman who gets raped, but from her rapist Powerful in its prose, bringing light to the controversial topic of consent and victim blaming, it s unwavering in its delivery As a woman and a reader, I was a twisted knot of emotions, reflection and rivaling thoughts How is it that situations like this one continue to happen, all around us, with no consequences Diminished self worth, mental health issues and upbringing collide in a perfect storm of bad choices a night that ends with a rape It s easy to fall into the victim blaming trap, to question why was she acting that way why would she put herself in that situation what about her fianc why didn t she fight harderbut, at the end of the day, is any of that an excuse for what Tyler did Do any of those things negate the fact that Amber said no or told him to stop in the heat of the moment Of course not Not in the slightest What compounds Amber s situation is the reality that the man who mars her outlook on life is none other than her best friend, Tyler This is where things get a little tricky for me Having read the synopsis, I knew exactly what I was in for and who was responsible It might not be fair to say that alone tainted Tyler in my eyes, but it s true My headspace was so clouded with what was to come, there was no way I could make it through the chapters of Amber and Tyler as best friends and not feel an underlying sense of disgust or hone in on his flaws Forget trying to find something redeeming about him or trying to understand their connection becauseI couldn t I don t know if it was that blatant disregard I had for Tyler from the start or the matter of fact way the memories of him and Amber together were written, but I struggled to feel their friendship on a deeper level There wasn t enough emotion behind their shared scenes, for me Not that that made what happened any easier to stomach One of the most difficult, but significant, things about this story is seeing the world through the eyes of a rapist Not many authors have approached the topic from this side of the situation and I can understand why Do you hit the reader over the head with the obvious conclusion, he s a total dirt bag, or even worse, try to garner sympathy for a rapist In my opinion, Ms Hatvany struck a happy medium For me, watching Tyler justify his actions and struggle with his delusional thoughts surrounding Amber made my skin crawl, but it was also eye opening, on some level It was a reality check of sorts a reminder that there are actual men walking around with this mindset and his father s twisted view of women After everything, I m sad to say, I m not sure Tyler understood that what he did was wrong andimportantly why The ending is a bit dramatic, toeing the line of too happy territory, and punctuated by a glaringly hypocritical situation Are Tyler s actions a valid excuse for Amber s Why would one person tell the truth and not the other Those are only two of the hundreds of questions that raced through my mind during this emotionally laden journey My decision to pick up a book is often influenced by several things This time around, it was a heartfelt review written by my friend, Chelsea If you haven t had the chance to read her moving review, I urge you to check it out here I applaud Chelsea and Amy Hatvany be sure to check out her letter to the reader for having the strength to share their experiences in the hopes that their words might help someone else and bring awareness to such a controversial issueThank you to Atria and NetGalley for a copy in exchange for an honest review.


  4. Susanne Strong Susanne Strong says:

    4.5 StarsBold Formidable Raw Visceral It Happens All The Time tackles a subject that is hard to write about To be honest, I can barely form my thoughts about this book into words I wish this didn t happen all of the time But if we are being honest, it does And here, in this book, Amy Hatvany bravely brings this issue the forefront A young woman, Amber, is raped by her best friend, Tyler, after having known him since she was a teenager And he is the person she trust most in this world a 4.5 StarsBold Formidable Raw Visceral It Happens All The Time tackles a subject that is hard to write about To be honest, I can barely form my thoughts about this book into words I wish this didn t happen all of the time But if we are being honest, it does And here, in this book, Amy Hatvany bravely brings this issue the forefront A young woman, Amber, is raped by her best friend, Tyler, after having known him since she was a teenager And he is the person she trust most in this world and she would never have imagined in a million years that he would harm her How does this happen It happens because you never know anyone as well as you think you know them or rather, you never know what anyone is capable of Amber and Tyler have been best friends for what seems like forever They met when they were both teenagers and bonded instantly Amber has only ever thought of Tyler as a friend, though Tyler has harbored romantic feelings for her for ages Years go by and Amber returns home after College, engaged Tyler is jealous but tries to hide it Their relationship returns to normal however. and one night they end up hanging out and having a little bit too much fun One thing leads to another and Tyler and Amber start kissing and Tyler thinks that Amber is into him and he will finally get the girl Amber however, changes her mind and tells Tyler to STOP and tries to push him away but he doesn t listen Tyler chooses and or decides not to hear Ambers CRIES telling him to STOP and he ends up raping his best friend THAT NIGHT changes the course of Amber s life and their friendship forever It Happens All The Time is told from both Amber and Tyler s perspectives It switches time periods from before and after the incident and also provides a backstory into Amber and Tyler s friendship, which I had a hard time buying into I never felt that drawn into the characters friendship before the rape occurred. and I think that had to do with Tyler s character He was a womanizer from the get go just like his father and even trying to picture him as Amber described when they were kids, just didn t jibe I admit I had a hard time with the character of Tyler He frustrated the hell out of me It never felt like he truly understood the ramifications of his actions even in the end or how much he really hurt his best friend or destroyed her life for that matter It was always about him Always At times, I wanted to punch his lights out and no, I am not a violent person I get that Tyler never felt good enough for his father or for Amber, but I never comprehended that being the cause of his anxiety and frustration I liked the character of Amber, but I didn t love her She was somewhat aloof, before. However, I completely drawn in by the sheer terror over what happened to her, how she reacted when confronted by Tyler. how she changed and the actions she took to feel strong and powerful The struggles she faced, the self loathing and victim blaming and then the realization that it wasn t her fault Helping a victim come to terms with something like that I can t imagine how hard it is And here, Amy Hatvany, describes Amber s journey superbly You can t help but wonder how consent between acquaintances, friends, etc., is even an issue Yet it is And like the title of the book, It Happens All The Time But it shouldn t Anyone should be able to change their minds at any moment People need to be heard Amy Hatvany did an incredible job of writing a powerful story about the most unimaginable crime Being raped and betrayed by your best friend the person you trust most in this world And then finding the STRENGTH to confront what happened, realize that it is not your fault and go on to try and pick up the pieces Bravo Amy This novel honestly left me kind of shattered Kind of like Hatvany s Best Kept Secret These things happens every day And you wish they didn t All we can do is talk about them Be brave and face them To those of you who ve gone through it My heart breaks for you Know that that I stand by and support you And I hear you.Published on Goodreads andon 5 2 17


  5. Diane S ☔ Diane S ☔ says:

    For the subject matter alone and the attention brought to said subject, this book deserves a higher rating than that which I have given So them why is my rating lower So many reviewers are rating this higher and I once again find myself swimming upstream For the first part of the book I felt there was a decided lack of emotion, in telling of the beginning friendship of Tyler and Amber, Amber s medical and mental problems were quite significant, and yet I felt they were treated very matter of For the subject matter alone and the attention brought to said subject, this book deserves a higher rating than that which I have given So them why is my rating lower So many reviewers are rating this higher and I once again find myself swimming upstream For the first part of the book I felt there was a decided lack of emotion, in telling of the beginning friendship of Tyler and Amber, Amber s medical and mental problems were quite significant, and yet I felt they were treated very matter of fact What happens is terrible, horrific, a supreme betrayal of trust, I acknowledge this but Tyler, who supposedly loves her shows little effect Doesn t seem distressed at all, just bugged me I don t think there has been a character in recent fiction, well obviously the killers in my mysteries, that I have despisedthan Tyler s father He is all things I dislike in a person, male or female Despicable, as a father and a man Didn t relate too well with any of the characters, found none of them very sympathetic The ending, really Well enough said, Hatvany s preface explains why she wrote this book about this subject and I feel for her, for all victims and as I said I applaud her for bringing attention to this subject, but for me as a story it didn t work ARC from publisher


  6. Always Pouting Always Pouting says:

    Amber and Tyler are best friends and have seen each other through some hard times They never really had friends outside one another but Tyler has always be in love with Amber who hasn t felt the same Tyler tries to accept this and be happy for her, especially when she comes home engaged after graduating college Yet as the two start spendingtime together that summer Amber s feelings seem to be changing Tyler once again hopes they will becomethan just friends until one night they g Amber and Tyler are best friends and have seen each other through some hard times They never really had friends outside one another but Tyler has always be in love with Amber who hasn t felt the same Tyler tries to accept this and be happy for her, especially when she comes home engaged after graduating college Yet as the two start spendingtime together that summer Amber s feelings seem to be changing Tyler once again hopes they will becomethan just friends until one night they go to a party and things change between them for good I m not sure if what I m going to talk about counts as a spoiler because I ve seen other reviews talk about it but if you don t want to know where the book goes just don t keep reading on from here While I really do commend the author for what she was trying to do here I had a problem with the whole situation that wouldn t seem to resolve itself in my mind If someone who is intoxicated can t give consent that how does what happen count as rape I do feel like as the plot goes Tyler getsandin the wrong but it does feel like a double standard to say Amber couldn t consent because she was intoxicated but Tyler was intoxicated as well so how much responsibility does he bare for the whole situation I really like when books bring up situations like this where things are ambiguous and I do think it s important to have books about these experiences I just had trouble buying that Tyler forced himself on Amber because of the way the plot had unfolded up to that point It felt pretty out of left field and I just can t say I totally felt during the scene of that he was purposefully hurting her because he was intoxicated too I know as we read on we find out he did hear her ask him to stop but I just can t buy that he heard her say that at the time and kept going just because of the fight with his father It still was out of character for the way he had been portrayed and during the rape scene it was written as if he hadn t heard her and kept forcing her, itseemed like he didn t register that she wanted to stop I do think that the intentionality changes things I m not saying he was in the right but I just don t think I felt like he was so responsible that Amber needed to force him to turn himself in and that he should have to ruin his life for this Also it was hard to sympathize with Amber doing that when she had a gun pointed at him the entire time, like you can t talk about morality when you yourself are doing something that s pretty ambiguous in terms of ethics Also at the end Amber claims she s never been free of the opinion of men but it never seemed like her eating order was about Tyler at all so that felt like a load of horse shit for why she needed to be single for a while It made zero sense in the context of what we had been told So while I did find the book well written and read all the way to the end eagerly I feel torn about the ideas presented here I m going to say this book was 3.5 stars for me, mostly for the inconsistencies in characterization for Tyler and Amber s moral superiority that she was completely in the right when the situation was so much less clear cut I really wish that there had been some acknowledgement of the fact that Tyler too was intoxicated heavily and that his impaired ability should have warranted someconversation about how much his actions really deserved to be punished


  7. Lindsay - Traveling Sisters Book Reviews Lindsay - Traveling Sisters Book Reviews says:

    4.5 stars This was an intense, thought provoking novel I was happy that I read this along with Brenda and Norma as it sparked a lot of deep conversation Highly recommended To see our full Traveling Sister Read review, please visit Norma and Brenda s fabulous book blog at 4.5 stars This was an intense, thought provoking novel I was happy that I read this along with Brenda and Norma as it sparked a lot of deep conversation Highly recommended To see our full Traveling Sister Read review, please visit Norma and Brenda s fabulous book blog at


  8. Amy Amy says:

    All of my reviews can be found on www.novelgossip.comI have to start by wishing Amy the happiest of publication days today This is such a poignant, timely, relevant read and one that is vitally important This book is powerful, and it tackles uncomfortable and difficult subject matter, but one that society has ignored for far too long and I m giving Amy a standing ovation today for being brave and strong enough to tackle the ugly truth behind rape Rape Such an awful word, isn t it It conjure All of my reviews can be found on www.novelgossip.comI have to start by wishing Amy the happiest of publication days today This is such a poignant, timely, relevant read and one that is vitally important This book is powerful, and it tackles uncomfortable and difficult subject matter, but one that society has ignored for far too long and I m giving Amy a standing ovation today for being brave and strong enough to tackle the ugly truth behind rape Rape Such an awful word, isn t it It conjures up pictures of masked assailants, strange perverts who get off on grabbing women from a dark alley or parking lot I know this happens, and I m not trying to trivialize it whatsoever, but did you know that seven out of ten rapes are committed by someone known to the victim The danger isn t necessarily lurking in the shadows, oftentimes it s been invited into your home or it s a loose acquaintance Seven out of ten Amber and Tyler have been best friends for years, they have a fantastic relationship and are as close as siblings Amber is the only child of over protective but extremely loving parents, and Tyler s parents are divorced His mom, Liz is best friends with Amber s mom, Helen and they ve even taken family vacations together Tyler has always been there for Amber, she trusts him implicitly, until one night when everything goes to hell in a hand basket Tyler rapes her and the impact shatters both of them as well as their families Hatvany tells the story from the perspective of both Amber and Tyler so you re able to see what each of them are thinking and feeling which I found especially powerful Amber struggles with self loathing, victim blaming, and constantly questions herself When she said no was it too late It s never too late, and the concept of consent was handle so beautifully here Does consent only need to be given once then it s a free for all No, most definitely not, if a woman or a man changes their mind at any point and says no or stop, things should end immediately Hatvany expands on this andin this thought provoking essay she wrote on The Conversations We re Not Having With Our Sons I highly recommend reading this, one of the things that stood out to me was that most parents have many discussions with their daughters about the importance of safety don t walk alone in the dark, don t leave your drink unattended, etc but are enough people having the so very important conversation with their sons about consent How do young men know about this if it s never talked about That has to change, it really does I could go on for days about this book and it s impact on me, but I ll wrap things up This was messy, real, raw, unflinchingly honest and heartbreaking, but in the end there was hope and a sense of healing It was also beautiful, thought provoking, and utterly crucial, this book needs to be read, by anyone and everyone I smell a giveaway coming, this is one where I ll be pushing it on everyone I know, unapologetically


  9. Norma Norma says:

    Traveling Sisters Read Review by NORMA, BRENDA and LINDSAY4.5 stars rounded up to 5IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME by AMY HATVANY is a formidable, compelling, thought provoking, and a bold novel that explores the emotional side of a friendship torn apart after a tragic night spent drinking, leaving lives forever changed Exploring the fallout and betrayal of trust between friends AMY HATVANY delivers a brutally honest portrayal here of a subject matter that is hard to talk about The story unfolds in Traveling Sisters Read Review by NORMA, BRENDA and LINDSAY4.5 stars rounded up to 5IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME by AMY HATVANY is a formidable, compelling, thought provoking, and a bold novel that explores the emotional side of a friendship torn apart after a tragic night spent drinking, leaving lives forever changed Exploring the fallout and betrayal of trust between friends AMY HATVANY delivers a brutally honest portrayal here of a subject matter that is hard to talk about The story unfolds in alternating points of view of our two main characters, Amber and Tyler, which added credibility to the story and forces us to see both sides of their stories It switches time periods from before and after and gives us a backstory of their friendship which was somewhat confusing for us at the beginning until we understood the shifting time periods.Amber and Tyler are complex and well developed characters both with mental illnesses AMY HATVANY does a really good job with exploring, addressing, and following through with their mental health which was a very satisfying aspect of the story for us There was one part of the story that we all found to be a little over the top and felt it was done to add a dramatic effect to the storyline but in our opinion it was unnecessary and boundering a little on hypocritical territory There was definitely lots of conversing and questions raised over this aspect of the novel Overall, we all thoroughly enjoyed this novel and really enjoyed the conversation that developed over this extremely thought provoking and emotional journey that this novel took us on Highly recommended All of our Traveling Sister Reads Reviews can be found on our blog


  10. Brenda - Traveling Sisters Book Reviews Brenda - Traveling Sisters Book Reviews says:

    4.5 starsThe perfect choice for another Traveling sister read with Norma and Lindsay Very thought provoking read that created some really good discussions for us All of our Traveling Sister Reads Reviews can be found on our blog 4.5 starsThe perfect choice for another Traveling sister read with Norma and Lindsay Very thought provoking read that created some really good discussions for us All of our Traveling Sister Reads Reviews can be found on our blog


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