Pretending to be Normal Living with Asperger's Syndrome

Pretending to be Normal Living with Asperger's Syndrome [Read] ➵ Pretending to be Normal Living with Asperger's Syndrome By Liane Holliday Willey – Thomashillier.co.uk Pretending to be Normal tells the story of a woman who after years of self doubt and self denial learned to embrace her Asperger's syndrome traits with thanksgiving and joy Chronicling her life from h be Normal PDF ↠ Pretending to be Normal tells the story of a woman who after years of self doubt and self Pretending to ePUB ½ denial learned to embrace her Asperger's syndrome traits with thanksgiving and joy Chronicling her life from her earliest memories to be Normal PDF/EPUB ´ through her life as a university lecturer writer wife and mother Liane Holliday Willey shares with insight and warmth to be Normal Living with PDF or the daily struggles and challenges that face many of those who have Asperger's Syndrome.


10 thoughts on “Pretending to be Normal Living with Asperger's Syndrome

  1. Victoria (RedsCat) Victoria (RedsCat) says:

    Over the past four years I've devoted a bit of time to study and research Asperger's Syndrome I realized I could relate to the traits and uirks and routines of others on the autism spectrum Yet it wasn't easy to get my diagnosis there's still not enough awareness even among mental health folks of autism and Asperger's Syndrome in women and girls I feel as Liane Holliday says Why I wondered did everyone refuse to accept my words as fact and not fiction? Why was I getting so much opposition? Why were my observations being discounted as so unimportant and unreliable? So now I feel uite fortunate that women like Liane are writing books to not only bring awareness to the world but also to help those of us with a diagnosis This book is both a memoir and a guide to lifeThough every Aspie is a uniue individual there are many commonalities a love of information and organization details routines obsessive thinking that's focus logical and literal mindedness the often unbearableness of eye contact a love of solitude and time to rechargeAnd the exhaustion we experience from feeling we have to hide who we are to fit in In fact living with one foot in neurotypical land and one in Aspieland is very stressful and exhausting I'm glad the author is choosing to pretend a little less She is an inspiration to meThis book is not only helpful and inspiring for those with an AS diagnosis but for anyone who wants to learn about what life is like for a woman with Asperger's Syndrome Oh to have had this when I was youngerThank you to Jessica Kinsgley Publishers and NetGalley for the opportunity to read and review an advance copy of this book


  2. Heidi Heidi says:

    This book was a uick read and a great insight into the world of Asperger's Syndrome Since I currently have a student with AS in my classroom it was very helpful for me to get a look into what might be going on inside her head and strategies for working effectively with her


  3. Laurie Laurie says:

    Willey has Asperger’s syndrome but never knew it until her daughter was diagnosed with it She knew she was different from most people and that some things were harder for her but that was as far as it went She was a high achiever in school went through college and got her doctorate married and had children Asperger’s did not stop her and now knowing why she is different her past makes sense to her This is her story of what life is like with Asperger’sThis is a very short book shorter than any of the other books on living with Asperger’s that I’ve read and because of this there is a lack of detail about how she felt growing up and how she dealt with the challenges of not being neurotypical I almost had the feeling that she didn’t really feel that her Asperger’s was a big deal She has a very supportive family both by birth and by marriage and a few good friends and that helps a lot when dealing with any health challenge While her personal story is interesting the heart of the book are the appendices brief articles on how to make one’s life easier when one has Asperger’s Included are good ways to explain to the people around you how to decide which people to tell specific suggestions for getting through college with the various problems that come along with Asperger’s employment issues keeping your home life in order how to deal with sensory perception problems and suggestions for the non Asperger’s who care about someone on the spectrum This section is a short but packed full of useful information like a jewel box of hints Recommended for anyone with Asperger’s and anyone with someone with it in their life


  4. Chris Chris says:

    25 stars I really wanted to love this book but I didn't It was kind of interesting to read Willey's experience growing up as an undiagnosed Aspie but I never felt invested in her story it all felt very distant Reading this felt similar to how reading Temple Grandin feels to me I always retain or am kept at? an academic distance Cynthia Kim's Nerdy Shy and Socially Inappropriate A User Guide to an Asperger Life was much my speed YMMV


  5. Paula Obermeier McCarty Paula Obermeier McCarty says:

    Good book A bit of light reading with some interesting thoughts The title was awesome Pretending to be Normal Ahhhseems like the perfect description of my life in general LOL Gosh when I think backWhen was I not pretending to be normal? LOLOne favorite uote Too often those with AS get lost in a world of discouragement and damaged self esteem and in that world there are few avenues for happiness I try at every opportunity I am given to show both my daughter and myself that so long as we are soundly willing we can find a way to create good things for ourselves no matter what Another favorite passage I want my girls to find reasons to enjoy all the people in their lives even if it means they have to tap into every creative well in their soul to do so I want them to truly way down deep in their hearts know that all peopleare worthy viable and exceptional beings who have much to give and even to share So long as my family knows who I am I am rather content As to others well their opinions tend to matter less and less to me Nonetheless I do try to help those who need to know me well see that I simply move to my own music


  6. Iona Stewart Iona Stewart says:

    This is a book about Asperger's syndrome penned by one suffering from it However the author's Asperger's syndrome was not diagnosed if it ever was until one of her own children received this diagnosisWhat shall I say? The author is exceedingly articulate and expresses in detail whatever she wants to say The book was a bit too intense for me who apparently have many of the symptoms of AS as do practically all of the reviewers on this site She tells us about the problems she had in her childhood and later in life She is apparently extremely extrovert and has difficulty in refraining from immediately blurting out her opinions and indeed enjoys talking in front of a group Though I have seen elsewhere that some AS sufferers have the opposite problem and talk very little She doesn't mention this fact however and I feel that one of the minuses of the book is that it is so subjectiveWe are led to understand from the book that AS sufferers have difficulty in creating and keeping friends and on the whole in cooperating with others They generally do not feel a need to create strong relationships with others They have difficulty with social relations as a whole in knowing the right things to do and say Loud noises ans sharp lights are found disturbing this leading to a lack of desire to freuent public places or attend parties or events attracting a large number of peopleWhat I found remarkable was that the author did manage to create and retain some few good friends who have been of indispensable help to her I feel that she has been extremely blessed in this respect taking her handicap into consideration She has also found an understanding compatible partner and given birth to three childrenShe had difficulty in orienting herself for example finding her way about the university she attended or maneuvering shopping malls She likes rules and like me especially when I was younger has difficulty in understanding or accepting that when people say they will do certain things in a certain time frame they don't do themThis book has been an eye opener for me in that it has helped me to recognize my own Asperger characteristics and to show me that I am not alone with all this I now better understand the perfectionistic side to my nature and why I hate spelling mistakes and the like I also better understand my need to read everything in a book preferably skipping nothing though I did manage to skip a few of the appendices in this book which I didn't feel were relevant to meSome ualities of Aspies are that they are honest direct say it like it is and loyal friends if their friends can accept the fact that they are different and hold out Aspies don't necessarily lack empathy I certainly don't and theywe can be extremely helpful by natureI would diagnose Detective Monk in the popular TV series as being an extreme example of an Aspie though his OCD symptoms are those most generally recognizable He often has difficulty in being empathic or recognizing the needs of others but in the end he helps them anyway even at the risk of his life Of course he is a fictional character but must have been modelled on some real life personTo sum up this book is extremely useful for those of us who ourselves have AS characteristics and for those who need help to understand us Though it must be pointed out that all the characteristics of the author are not shared by all other Aspies


  7. Magdelanye Magdelanye says:

    By giving this 4 stars I am not trying to pretend that I really liked this book but rather to express my respect for the effort and courage it took to write Certainly its heartening to know that actual progress has been made in identifying a broader and realistic definition of normal and thatit is sometimes possible for people identified as abnormal to be in fact normal as heck in their desires


  8. Mandy Mandy says:

    I found this book to be very interesting though frustrating Unless I missed it Liane doesn't make it clear if she was actually disgnosed with Aspergers or even if her daughter was or whether they have self diagnosed from their reading of the subject This doesn't help me be clear about what Aspergers is An awful lot of Liane's descriptions of the problems that she suffers rang bells with me either of problems I have or that people close to me have So where is the line drawn between neuro typical and AS? My problem is that I do not particularly believe that there is a line I think if one in 100 people have Aspergers then Aspergers itself must be in the realms of normal because most people can count than 100 others in our circle of family friends and acuaintances I also think that instead of it being neuro typical people over here who can do x y and z and AS people over there who cannot it must be like a scale with people on the outer limits who were either definitely AS or definityely NT and everyone else filling in somewhere in the middle People struggling with x or y orand z I would guess from the books that I have been reading that I am closer to the AS side at least in certain situations In a lot of ways I am like Liane though in some ways I am AS friendships seem to be easier for her and in some areas less I rarely get lost if getting lost is an AS trait Reading this book has helped me see what might be AS traits and I think that is a good thing We should all accept ourselves as we are but that is easier to say than do This book might help me to do it


  9. Michelle Michelle says:

    This book was written by a woman who was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome as an adult after her daughter was diagnosed with the same condition It should be an essential on the reading list of someone who truly wants to understand Aspeger's Syndrome It may be useful to read books written by psychologists and experts on the topic but a study of the syndrome cannot be complete without looking at it through the eyes of a true expert one who actually has Asperger's Pretending to be Normal is very compelling and reads like a novel It illustrates first hand experiences of what it is like to struggle with the various aspects associated with the autism spectrum coping methods and misunderstandings


  10. Lester Lester says:

    AmazingbecauseI recognized so many people in this book People everywhereI am recommending this book to EVERYONEespecially to those that 'have gifted' children Not always is that an easy thing to be labelled with To many people'gifted' means that that child 'has it easy''oh so smart'and then'why is that kid acting outheshe is so smart' What does that mean anyways??I had so many pages marked offand had to stop myself from reading this line this paragraph this exampleout loud to anyone that was sitting by meBefore I go on and onjust read this bookeveryoneplease


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