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  1. Petra-X Petra-X says:

    The new tribes of America Complete with initiation rites and codes of behaviour In Sapiens A Brief History of Humankind and Tribe On Homecoming and Belonging both Yuval and Junger romanticise the togetherness, warmth and happiness of belonging to a tribe where food is easy to find and work is accomplished in a few hours view spoiler Were Yuval and Junger remembering their days in a fraternity, blood brotherhood and chug the beer and easy, elite women hide spoiler The downside was the b The new tribes of America Complete with initiation rites and codes of behaviour In Sapiens A Brief History of Humankind and Tribe On Homecoming and Belonging both Yuval and Junger romanticise the togetherness, warmth and happiness of belonging to a tribe where food is easy to find and work is accomplished in a few hours view spoiler Were Yuval and Junger remembering their days in a fraternity, blood brotherhood and chug the beer and easy, elite women hide spoiler The downside was the brutality of punishment towards those who contravened the social codes and uppity outsiders who were sneered at, at best, and at worst Is this the modern interpretation Do Americans send their kids to college to join a sorority or fraternity that they will pledge allegiance to for all eternity view spoiler sorry, that s the Mormons, isn t it, another tribe hide spoiler and feel good that they have been inducted into adult life As We Know It Better still if they join the same one as their parents whilst attending their Alma Mater Do they remember the hazing, drinking and casual sex as fondly as that certainty they were Fitting In and Making the Right Contacts Is this what they save up for 18 years for, to fund their children s tribal lives And for those too poor, too ethnic view spoiler not just ethnic, plenty of tribes for them to join, but too ethnic, too much a minority hide spoiler , too geeky or just plain not interested, what do they do Form a tribe of outsiders perpetually looking in, Dalits when it comes to parties and the secret handshake of employment opportunities Or are they the majority, the kids who just go to get a degree, work their way through school and leave with friends they got drunk at the Uni bar with every Sat night Not being an American, I can t answer that Read in 2007, reviewed in 2016


  2. Petra-X Petra-X says:

    Yesterday I was looking at the author s site and noticed that this book was not marked as read by me and I knew I d read it I couldn t find it on my shelves So I looked at an old shelf export and there it was So I added it again It didn t say read twice Today a friend sent me a link to my original review There it was, but didn t say read twice although since I added it again it should have It still doesn t And now there are two editions on my shelves This is really, really odd._________ Yesterday I was looking at the author s site and noticed that this book was not marked as read by me and I knew I d read it I couldn t find it on my shelves So I looked at an old shelf export and there it was So I added it again It didn t say read twice Today a friend sent me a link to my original review There it was, but didn t say read twice although since I added it again it should have It still doesn t And now there are two editions on my shelves This is really, really odd._________________I read this in June 2008, today I looked on my shelves and it was gone, but it was on my shelf export of July 27th, 2009 What could have happened to it Luckily I hadn t reviewed it as I would have been really upset to lose yet another review Why do Goodreads never take it seriously that so many books and reviews disappear Why is it always write to Support and that s it I guess there s just no money in bothering to investigate this problem


  3. Kristie Damell Kristie Damell says:

    As a past chapter President and current Greek advisor at a college, my expectations of this book were exceedingly high The women in the sorority I advise all read it and passed it along to me I was hoping they might learn some valuable lessons about hazing and the consequences of taking part in hazing related activities Unfortunately, this book primarily focused on the day to day lives of four sorority women While I can say with certainty that the things in this book do happen in sororities, As a past chapter President and current Greek advisor at a college, my expectations of this book were exceedingly high The women in the sorority I advise all read it and passed it along to me I was hoping they might learn some valuable lessons about hazing and the consequences of taking part in hazing related activities Unfortunately, this book primarily focused on the day to day lives of four sorority women While I can say with certainty that the things in this book do happen in sororities, her description of sorority life is concentrated on one specific type of college ethos What was described in this book was nothing similar to what I experienced as an undergraduate or to what the women I advise experience And while she does include a foreword defending her book and explaining her position, I was still disappointed with the writing and the aspects of sorority life she chose to focus on The never ending dialogue got old and repetitive Her insistence on glorifying certain types of organizations over others seemed based on speculation I can appreciate her attempt to uncover the sometimes unorthodox rituals of sorority life, the petty, caddy conversations, and the substance abuse However, I would have preferred to read a sorority book based on pure fiction or a dissertation based on well rounded research and statistics from a variety of collegiate environments, from large state schools to private liberal arts schools To the average reader with little knowledge of fraternity and sorority life, this book will ingrain in them an image and stereotype that is not always accurate


  4. Jordan A. A. Jordan A. A. says:

    This book was not smart enough for me to get behind the author s arguments Not having been in a sorority for the beginning of college and then joining one after transferring schools, I felt that the author had a definite bias in her reporting even though she presented it as though she was without She greatly missed the fact that binge drinking, casual sex and a disinterest in philanthropy is a cultural phenomenon and one of the college age group Her criticism of sorority members neglected t This book was not smart enough for me to get behind the author s arguments Not having been in a sorority for the beginning of college and then joining one after transferring schools, I felt that the author had a definite bias in her reporting even though she presented it as though she was without She greatly missed the fact that binge drinking, casual sex and a disinterest in philanthropy is a cultural phenomenon and one of the college age group Her criticism of sorority members neglected to criticize the same behavior of non affiliated students which I have experienced from both sides, her constant discussion of meanness happens in all types of environments I particularly disliked how she ended her book with her prescription for what Greek organizations need to do to fit her viewpoint I also disliked that she didn t represent any members that aren t solely interested in drinking, partying and finding boyfriends which I know exist having been a member of one of the national sororities she discussed I also didn t like how she so carelessly printed the rituals and symbols of different chapters Even though that information is irrelevant to her, some people hold that dear and if she truly embraces diversity in culture she should respect the traditions of others much like I respect all different expressions of faith A lot of her distaste for Southern chapters signifies symptoms of the South, not every chapter of the national sorority, leading me to believe that Robbins doesn t understand that our country, while one nation, has geographic areas with great difference in belief and history when it comes to issues of race, sexual orientation, and religion If Robbins would have doneresearch and published a work that was a scholarly discussion of what a Greek organization can accomplish for the good and its detriments, I may have been interested but instead I found it to be a cheap piece of writing looking to make money at the expense of others


  5. Ashley Ashley says:

    I went to a college in the South and was a member of a National Sorority all four years I was in school Let s just say I did not have the same experiences that Robbins describes in her book First of all, my sorority had very strict rules on hazing We were not even allowed to let our new members go on a fun camping retreat to get to know one another because it was considered hazing if all sisters did not participate That being said, my experiences before I was intiated were filled with free I went to a college in the South and was a member of a National Sorority all four years I was in school Let s just say I did not have the same experiences that Robbins describes in her book First of all, my sorority had very strict rules on hazing We were not even allowed to let our new members go on a fun camping retreat to get to know one another because it was considered hazing if all sisters did not participate That being said, my experiences before I was intiated were filled with free lunches, dinners, and gifts I was not made to do any demeaning acts hazing that many people may associate with being in a sorority My sorority was predominantly white but we had several African American members keep in mind I did say my sorority was in the South and those members actually got teased by the African American sororities for joining with the white sorority talk about reverse racism I will admit there was some underage binge drinking but seriously, the majority of college students will participate in binge drinking whether they are in the Greek system or not and I know this for a fact as I did have non Greek friends I could say the same for the number of girls in my sorority who chose to have sex probably about the same number as non Greek college girls No sister in my sorority was forced or pressured into drinking, doing drugs or doing anything sexual ever.I do think the fact that I went to a small, private school for college did have some effect on my sorority experiences but I was still not all that shocked by Robbins observations of sorority life I mean they are pretty common generalizations that most people have about sororities Nevermind the fact that they are not always true as in my case which is evident throughout the book with her lack of research The book is selective journalism at best and it made me angry that people may read this and get the wrong impression of sororities There are two sides to every coin Not all sororities are bad


  6. Lani Lani says:

    I have a love hate relationship with everything Alexandra Robbins writes She is a total sensationalist and I feel a bit guilty every time I pick up one of her books But they re always very fun I found this oneamusing than some others because it seemed so unabashedly self centered It really seemed like the author just wanted to join a sorority and wanted to make sure we all knew that she could still do it AND pass for a college girl Read anything by Robbins with a GIGANTIC GRAIN OF I have a love hate relationship with everything Alexandra Robbins writes She is a total sensationalist and I feel a bit guilty every time I pick up one of her books But they re always very fun I found this oneamusing than some others because it seemed so unabashedly self centered It really seemed like the author just wanted to join a sorority and wanted to make sure we all knew that she could still do it AND pass for a college girl Read anything by Robbins with a GIGANTIC GRAIN OF SALT There is no doubt in my mind that she often manipulates facts for the sake of continuity and shock value That being said, I enjoy the portrayals of her characters and they ARE characters, despite this book being theoretically non fiction and I do recognize some truth in many of these women.Never having been in a sorority, I can t speak much about how true her experiences are But simply as a college girl I certainly experienced similar pressures and issues either myself or with friends or hallmates Stereotypes and caricatures exist for a reason, and they are covered in abundance in this book Eating disorders, binge drinking, bad boys, terrible decisions, sisterhood, bitches, discrimination, and every other aspect of college experience are REAL, though hardly limited to pretty white blonde sorority girls.The book was interesting, and I really enjoyed it If you aren t willing to suspend some disbelief and just read the book however, I can CERTAINLY see why so many people objected to it


  7. Lisa Dunckley Lisa Dunckley says:

    If you ve never been in a sorority, this book s information will be intriguing, even shocking If you HAVE been in a sorority, you will either be nodding your head in agreement, or angered that the bright happy outside face of Greek Life is being sullied.Here s some of what I learned from this book 1 Sororities have much higher incidences of binge drinkers, habitual drinkers, and drug users than the general college population Drinking especially is encouraged and at some times even required.2 If you ve never been in a sorority, this book s information will be intriguing, even shocking If you HAVE been in a sorority, you will either be nodding your head in agreement, or angered that the bright happy outside face of Greek Life is being sullied.Here s some of what I learned from this book 1 Sororities have much higher incidences of binge drinkers, habitual drinkers, and drug users than the general college population Drinking especially is encouraged and at some times even required.2 Many sororities are so invested in presenting a certain image that they only recruit girls who look similar even down to hair color , and they are against diversity to the extent that it becomes racism.3 Weight and looks are extremely important, with public weigh ins and being forced to strip and to have sisters and in some cases even fraternity brothers circle areas of fat with black magic marker.4 Date rape is not uncommon between fraternity brothers and sorority sisters, and pressure is applied to sisters to not report it, because it would damage the Greek image.5 Sorority meetings are requirements, to the extent that students miss important family events and even class labs tests yet most of the meetings are pointless rituals or busy work or social functions parties.6 Girls have been seriously injured and even died in Rush hazing activities.And yet1 Sorority members arelikely to graduate from college than the general college population.2 Sorority members on average have a higher GPA.3 In some parts of the country a sorority membership is still considered one of the most important life defining tags a girl can have It can open up opportunities and provide connections.4 Girls can have a feeling of belonging that helps them throughout college.5 Lifelong friends can be made.6 Some report that their sorority membership was not only the most important part of college, but the most important connection of their lives.I found parts of this book to be terrifying Some of the rituals that they put new pledges through are horrifying The power that sororities exercise over their members is unreal And yet parts of it sounded really fun, really appealing It seems like something that could be changed keep the good and get rid of the bad Regardless it was a great read


  8. Felicia Felicia says:

    SoI went to a school that was very sorority heavy, and always stared at the girls like, Wow, why would you want to do that This book aims to be balanced, but I dunno why any human would want their daughter joining one after reading this Talk about conformity and marginalization in institutions This was so frightening to me to read, and fascinating at the same time Highly recommended for the curious.


  9. Katie Katie says:

    An interesting investigative report on life in historically white sororities in the 2000 s South Having been denied access to sororities by their national offices, in the wake of MTV s expose, the young thin, pretty Robbins accompanied four young women undercover through for one academic year, at the risk of their being disaffiliated She does not disclose the location or name of the university although it is in a warm climate or the sororities She says that she deliberately chose ordinary An interesting investigative report on life in historically white sororities in the 2000 s South Having been denied access to sororities by their national offices, in the wake of MTV s expose, the young thin, pretty Robbins accompanied four young women undercover through for one academic year, at the risk of their being disaffiliated She does not disclose the location or name of the university although it is in a warm climate or the sororities She says that she deliberately chose ordinary sororities with good reputations and ordinary members to represent them.The result is revealing It confirms my own decision not to join a sorority back in the 80s, if only because the students seem to spend most of their time drinking, buying clothes, finding dates, having sex, arguing, and drinking I was not surprised that selection, ranking, and overall valuing of members is based partly on appearance, but was surprised that family income is so blatantly important The book moves along at a fairly good clip, sometimes dragging a little through accounts of endless drunken parties and dances More interesting are the times the sisters spend together NOT drinking, or not mostly drinking, but talking while they do each other s hair, comforting each other over a break up or a failure, celebrating a success, complaining or planning The most interesting parts of the book are the ancillary interviews with alumnae from chapters at other colleges, the chapter on historically black sororities which contains a few brief paragraphs on Hispanic sororities , and the bits about independent groups such as coed frats Robbins does an excellent job of exposing the racism in the women s Greek system in the South, although she could writeabout the North and West The most valuable part of the book is the final chapter, in which Robbins recommends ways to improve historically white sorority life For example, she strongly suggests that sororities eliminate rush the whirlwind ritual in which hopefuls visit all the chapters for a few mintues at a time, rather like speed dating in favor of asensible visiting and application process She points out that the white organizations are basically social groups, not service groups, and questions why they merit special support from colleges Colleges are within their rights to make demands on them and to revoke their support if demands are not met Robbins also notes that white sororities are not really women s groups as long as most of their activities are centered around dating, fraternity mixers, and balls that is, around men She answers all her criticisms with ideas for change Having described a number of frightening instances of physical, sexual and mental hazing dating back to the 1970 s including two at the university where my father taught , Robbins shows how the sororities national governing body, by discouraging hazing but failing to define it, managed to drive it underground in some chapters while simply weakening the group bonding process in others She challenges the national body to define hazing outright and then to ban it, while instituting positive group building methods.The book could be improved For example, the treatment of historically black sororities is too brief, although the main purpose of the book is an undercover report on white sororities Robbins is white One of her four main interviewees is black, and she displays little understanding of the challenges a young black woman faces in a group of rich, overprivileged white women Throughout the book, Robbins refers to her subjects as girls, while she calls their fraternity counterparts men about half the time This grated on my nerves When I moved to Texas I was struck by the fact that university sports were divided into men s teams and girls teams Nomenclature is a small point, but it is not trivial It reflects the overall status of persons College males have historically been called men, while females have been called girls unless they were married Age did not enter into it.I doubt that women who love their sororities will be at all happy with this book, except, perhaps, for some of the recommendations in the last chapter Certainly the fact that Robbins was forced to go undercover made it a very different report than it would have been had she had open access, with sisters, advisors, consultants and university administrators knowing who she was, providing interviews, offering information, and engaging her on various levels Instead of treating investigators like Robbins as partners in reform reform of a system in which young women abuse alcohol, vomit so frequently they damage the plumbing, get raped, and die they circle the wagons Outsiders are left wondering what sororities are hiding.Robbins is, after all, calling for reform of the system, not for getting rid of it She finds something of value in it groups in which young women find a niche, friends, a place to fit in She hopes to make it a better, safer place forwomen, one with less racism, hostility, and danger Those in charge might learn from NASA, whose media policy, after the disaster of the Apollo 1 coverup, changed from secrecy to When things are going well, tell the media everything they want to know When things are going badly, tell them


  10. Doug Doug says:

    What this book is about in fewer words than this sentence Every rumor you ve ever heard about sororities are true.What I learned from this book All rich, popular white girls are exactly the same.Sorority stereotypes are true.Women tend to treat each other like shit.College students make boring subject matter.


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Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities [BOOKS] ✫ Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities ✭ Alexandra Robbins – Thomashillier.co.uk This New York Times bestseller is a fast paced, behind the scenes book that blows the lid off the intriguing world of mainstream sorority lifeAlexandra Robbins wanted to find out if the stereotypes ab This New Secret Life PDF ´ York Times bestseller is a fast paced, behind the scenes book that blows the lid off the intriguing world of mainstream sorority lifeAlexandra Robbins wanted to find out if the stereotypes about sorority girls were actually true, so she spent a year with a group of girls in a typical sorority The sordid behavior of sorority girls exceeded her worst expectations drugs, Pledged: The PDF/EPUB or psychological abuse, extreme promiscuity, racism, violence, and rampant eating disorders are just a few of the problems But even surprising was the fact that these abuses were inflicted and endured by intelligent, successful, and attractive women Why is the desire to belong to a sorority so powerful that women are willing to engage in this type of behavior specially when the women involved are supposed The Secret Life MOBI ñ to be considered sisters What definition of sisterhood do many women embrace Pledged combines a sharp eyed narrative with extensive reporting and the fly on the wall.